Problem with missionary

Hi mate,

I would personally say not to sweat it. You're trying too hard to control the situation because of what happened last time. It's ok if you don't know what you're doing. Communication is important here. Once you get to the moment, figure things out together.

My first sexual experience went like this. I struggled with sex the first few times, but what helped was being honest and letting her help me out too. As we tried it a few times over different days, I started to find what was comfortable for me. Now, I have sex in a comfortable spot. It was hard because I felt incompetent, but that wouldn't have motivated me to try different things and taking it at my own pace.

So, don't focus so much on the experience being perfect. Just let whatever happen, happen. If things are uncomfortable, acknowledge it and then figure it out between you both. If things really aren't working, then do discuss changing positions with her. Your feelings do matter too - it's ok if you want to try a position other than 'the most basic one preferred in the country'!

 

Missionary is tough leaning on your knees. I got rug burn last time. Try standing missionary with her laying on edge of bed. Cowgirl is enjoyable if you have knees bent up where you can thrust hips up. Try experimenting different positions. Remember sex is different then masturbation. Hands can be a lot tighter grip then her body.

Personally i have issue with doggy. My feet slide and hard to keep a rythym

 

Congratulations on eliminating PMO from your life!

Now you need to stop MO as well. I think that is your problem. Especially if you have a date in a few weeks, you should stop MO completely as well.

 

@Varun082013

As a person who my as well be a virgin, here some things I keep in mind based on what I've read from the experiences of others. Much, if not all, will be arepeat what has already been said.

Sex and masturbation are two different things. Let her know you are very inexperienced and still have to learn what works for you. There are two of you so work together to find what works for both of you. Expect sex to be not what we expect.

Thanks for your thoughts. This thread gives me some things to think about for after I'm married.

 

Doggy style for me. Thats the possition most natural. Easy penetration. Missionary is difficult for me, I loose mental connection to my penis.

 

Foreplay Foreplay and then more foreplay.
What happens next will flow spontaneously and you will both enjoy it.
Sex is never about the mechanics, it is about the flow.

 

I can foreplay for 2 weeks and if it than comes to missionary, its game over... anyway, its maybe about learning these positions.. had to learn doggystyle as well... rewiring rewiring...

At the end of the day

Sex is extremely overrated

 

Brother, why missionary?
You don't even need a penis to enjoy sex.

 

Foreplay is great for sure. I didn't know that some people have difficulty with missionary position, it probably does just require a bit more practice.

I typically start out in missionary, or some variation of it. It's great since you have a nice view if you want and you can kiss at the same time as well. Doggy is great too of course. I normally switch to cow girl if I start to get tired and need a bit of a breather. Unless it's a quicky, I typically do all three of these main positions at least once. But missionary is a staple.

 

Cow girl never, cant be bellow anyone.. missionary.. maybe its becausr Im tall 195cm... hardly can kiss if she is not like 175cm and more.. if she is 160, cant see her damned head, which can be a plus..