Desiring better.

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Z34L0T, Nov 28, 2022.

  1. Z34L0T

    Z34L0T Fapstronaut

    Hey 'Nauts.
    Z3LT01D here.

    Like all the rest, I'm a creature of desire. I desire so many things. All my life, I've been driven by desires. I've become very aware throughout my life of what it looks like to pursue desires that I know aren't good for me.

    I've been on a particular path, a very narrow and bloody difficult path, for a long time now, which forces me to reckon with my desires, and requires me to question whether they will lead me in the right direction.

    I've seen many harmful and disordered desires slowly fade and become replaced with better desires, throughout my life, for sure. But porn... man. Porn has been a dark passenger for most of my short time here on earth. I hate it.
    But... if I really hated it... why do I desire it so often? And how can I desire something so out of step and so misaligned with my world view and my beliefs about life?
    It's such a terrifying question: what do I really... truly desire?
    My actions, habits, rituals and inner conversations certainly reveal that I have not fully come to terms with some of my deepest 'desire issues'.

    I know this: I do desire to be a better image bearer of God, a better man, a better husband, a better father, a better leader, a better friend, a better desirer. I want to do all I can to pursue these desires in a way that completely dissolves other contrary desires that do harm to these ones.

    I'm convinced that community is the only way to trek this path.

    I definitely desire fellow soldiers in a war like this. There are some in my immediate circles... but not enough. I'd love to trek with folks here. Seems like a really effective forum for this.

    TL;DR - glad to be here, I'm going for a 90 day P' streak. M' needs to go too. The O' is a keeper (I'm a married man).

    Thanks for reading! Peace
     
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  2. Divyanshu Gautam

    Divyanshu Gautam Fapstronaut

    Hello
    Welcome lad
    Just be regular on this site
    We all will overcome this addiction
    As you are new
    I would recommend you to first write down the reason why you want to quit Pmo
    And store it in your mind permanently

    And then
    Second step is to read as many threads as possible
     
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  3. Z34L0T

    Z34L0T Fapstronaut

    Thanks mate, good advice.
     
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  4. Divyanshu Gautam

    Divyanshu Gautam Fapstronaut

    Start slow and be steady in this marathon.
    I wanted to add this too in first post
     
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  5. Wilderness Wanderer

    Wilderness Wanderer Fapstronaut

    Welcome, glad to have you here. I'd recommend starting a reboot journal and posting daily so folk can follow you, encourage you, etc. You can link to your journal in your profile to make it more visible for people. You can also follow other people's journals. There is also a group for Christians that you can join.
     
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  6. Z34L0T

    Z34L0T Fapstronaut

    Yeah awesome, so how exactly do you do that? I've seen it in people's profile, not sure how/ where to find that feature.. cheers Wilderness Wanderer!
     
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  7. Z34L0T

    Z34L0T Fapstronaut

    Yep, joined it. Thanks brother. Let's do this.
     
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  8. Wilderness Wanderer

    Wilderness Wanderer Fapstronaut

    You can pick one of two places for your journal to live:

    1. Scan the front page of the forum: https://forum.nofap.com/index.php and near the bottom is the Reboot Logs area. Pick according to your age and start a thread in there. Benefit of posting here is that you will get the help of those who aren't members of the Christian group.

    2. Head to the Christian group forum https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?forums/christian-fapstronauts-forum.49/ and start a thread in there. If you do this, I'd recommend noting that it's a journal in the subject, because those threads aren't organized. Only Christian group members will be able to see your journal here.

    To add your journal to your profile, head here: https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?account/personal-details and about halfway down there's a place to copy/paste the link to your journal.
     
  9. Z34L0T

    Z34L0T Fapstronaut

    Super helpful. I actually just uploaded an intro journal entry into the age bracket thread... but half my entry was lined out in the text? Did I miss a word count type thing here? Half my entry is crossed out lol!

    UPDATE: Lol. sorted. I must have turned 'strike-through' on. Turns out I crossed out my own work :/
     
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