I met a girl about a week ago on bumble and we really seem to be getting along. We are both Christians and she seems to really be into me, there is somewhat of a language barrier but I can get over it. Usually after work I get drunk and I am unproductive, but now because she gets off at 10 every night I am forced to stay up and sober, and since I need to find ways to keep myself awake I actually started skateboarding and am getting pretty good at it. I also have started taking care of my personal hygiene more because no girl wants to be around a smelly dude. I think this is what I needed in my life, someone to focus on other than myself, and I have also quit pmo with little desire to relapse.
So she ended up breaking things off with me prematurely, I guess the long distance and language barrier was too much for her, or maybe I bored her on the phone haha. Either way I am grateful for this experience, it really helped open my eyes, to help me see what areas I need to improve.
Sorry to hear that man. Good for you for trying that takes courage. It’ll take more courage to try again. I doubt anyone looks back on their life and thinks they were TOO courageous so go try again and don’t live in regret.
Unfortunately some people, perhaps many don't know how to talk on the phone without being in a rush these days, so it may not be your fault.
I tried taking things slow, I went through as many small talk topics as I could find, but kept it simple and friendly. I think people are not prepared to play the long game and make a genuine effort to make things work.
