Helping him through this

I've also not had this problem. However I did have hard times finishing when I had PMO'd or MO'd many times in the days before being intimate.

@Psalm27:1my light said this once and it makes sense. I may not have struggled with PIED yet, but probably would/will without making healthy changes as I get older.

 

You have the right to disagree with the GP. And you also have the right to tell him that people here say it's an issue, and insist that it's a possibility.

He's going to look for any possible answer other than his addiction. Any hint of oh it could be this or that and he's going to latch onto it. That's because of his shame, he's embarrassed that it could be because if p. It's a lot easier to think it is something out of our control, if that makes sense. I know this because I'm certain if I was in his position I would have done the same thing at one point in my journey. The only way we can continue acting out is to make sure its not causing a problem, and we do that by denying the possibility that it actually could.

It sounds like you are doing everything right. Setting healthy boundaries and also caring for his feelings. Be steadfast in that approach, and know he is going to have good days and bad days.

I wish you both the best.

 

I've been a porn user since I was 13. This escalated at 17 and I had ED issues starting at 19 and they have continued since. They directly correlate with my porn usage and how often I release.

 

With long-term abstinence from porn use and masturbation, he is probably likely to recover his virility. He has wired his sexual attraction to porn and masturbatuion, now he needs to sort of resensitise himself to normal sexual arousal. The reason he can't 'finish' is because he's used to bringing himself to climax manually. It will take some time but will probably improve fairly quickly once he cuts out PM altogether.

In the short-term, you might want to consider pharmaceutical solutions if he's struggling to perform sexually. If he goes to a doctor, that's probably what they'll prescribe given his age anyway. The odds of them recommending abstinence from pornography or therapy of any kind is minimal. Unless you suspect a hormonal problem, it's likely not worth your time.