Can't Stop Edging

The problem I have with edging is that there's a point where it's closer to being masturbation than not (I'm a woman, BTW). I edged today, but I was able to stop and say "You know, I don't want to do this" and I didn't get to the point of no return. That is usually very hard for me, but I just made the decision to stop and did stop. I'm proud of myself for that little victory.

I find that good distractions keep me from edging, fantasizing and masturbating. For me, it can be something as simple as an interesting or important news article online (or a slew of them), but sometimes I need to just get up and get out of my room. I hope the gym works out for you as a good distraction; that seems to do the trick for many fapstronauts.

 

I would say that this is never a standalone thing. There was always a conscious decision to start and there is always a conscious decision to continue doing what you are doing.

The best way that helps me to stop when I'm in a situation like this is awarness. Awarness of what I am doing and what I want to be doing. And the awarness that I AM IN CONTROLL. That I DON'T NEED to be doing this and I have very good reasons why I DON'T WANT to be doing this. It can be hard to convince my mind about it sometimes, but it is the truth anyway. Remember, whenever you are doing something that you don't want to be doing, the only thing you need to win is to do nothing. And you can do nothing, can't you?

 

Edging is poisonous!!!

Please, please read this, it helped me to open my eyes and see where your true problem lies

http://yourbrainonporn.com/what-if-i-use-porn-without-orgasm

Enjoy

 

I agree with Jakob, I do not believe you should be edging at all.

Imagine if this were a forum for quitting smoking. Do you think it would be okay for me to take a cigarette, stick it between my lips, light it, and just let it burn down without actually inhaling it directly into my lungs? NO! That's not going to help me stop smoking at all, if anything it would increase my desire for a smoke. I see edging in our case the same way.

Please take the time to read the article that Jakob posted. It will help you on your journey to being PMO free. Here's a quote from the article:

"Is edging bad?:
Yes, in fact it's worse. The reason is simple: instead of achieving orgasm and ending it, you train your brain to be bathing in chemicals for hours. It's the worst thing you can do, bar none. The worst. If you begin and realize what you are doing, stop or rush to the end. Whatever you do, don't keep the pace. Most of us weren't addicted to PMO, but rather to PEO."

Give it a read, and good luck, DailyBread.

 

@you are more : great example bro.. and @daily bread stop edging bro. It is even worse than mastrbation in some aspect.

 

I've been edging quite a lot also, but never-ever to P. If a fantasy comes to mind, it's all about being with my wife.

I edge to gain control over my O, to relax myself and enjoy being in the moment of the sensation. I helps me be aware of how close I am to O, then stopping or slowing down the rhythm. Being in a tantric state of mind while having sex with my wife and being multi orgasmic (or maybe even not reaching O) is a goal I want to achieve.

I feel edging is helping me be aware of myself to relax and enjoy, to be fully engaged with my wife for her pleasure, and not having the big O become the goal of sex.

 

So, why the hell are you here @Kangaroo? You must have so much dopamine sloshing around in your brain you cannot possibly heal, recover, reboot or benefit in anyway whatever from doing NoFap, or am I missing something?

 

I'm here because sexual health is important to me and NoFap is a fascinating website. I find some valuable, and some not-so valuable information here. I take away the stuff that works for me.

 

I would watch porn for hours and edge (didn't know what it was called at the time).
I feel that edging contributed directly to my DE. Trying to make myself last forever so i could watch more porn literally made me last forever even when i didn't want to.
Its dangerous. Might not seem like it now but down the road it can damage your ability to O.