What helps against urges?

Keep busy.

Exercise usually is the best thing you can do. Being tired in your body helps prevent urges

Use the time that you're spending "not fapping" to do something productive. Remind yourself about this everytime you get an urge.

 

- Use a porn blocker in your internet browsers and delete any porn collections you have
- Try to be around people as much as possible, alone time = fap urges
- Find a project and keep yourself busy
- When you get an urge, visit the forum and remind yourself why you're doing this, and share your thoughts/feelings with other people on here
- Always look at your day count. The longer you do NoFap, the more you have to lose if you give in. I certainly don't want to have to go through my last 13 days again!
- The cold shower technique works, I don't personally use it, but you can search for it in the forum
- Always have the mentality that the long term happiness of quitting NoFap is far greater than the happiness of a few seconds of ejaculation.

 

* Going outside your house, when having a urge, just go, walk outside.
* Use one browser only, so you don't have other browsers to use for porn
* I usually did push ups too, when having urge moments, just do many push ups as you can.
* Jogging outside helps too

As said above, keep BUSY ! cook new meals, listen to new music, expand your horizons. Paint something or draw.

 

The cold shower technique dosn't even work?

 

Instead of cold shower try deep breathing. Cold shower is the same effect, when you step under the water, you react with a deep breath.

Start breathing in and out as deep as you can, every morning when I wake up, I do deep breathing exercises.

 

Write a check to a trusted friend and if you screw up they can cash it. If you are motivated by not losing things it works really well. Stay strong!

 

I'm not going to re-write my whole post here, but I go a lot into how to avoid and deal with urges in my post here: http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?7374-How-I-got-to-90-days-and-how-why-I-plan-to-never-fap-again

 

I agree with most of what you said but I disagree about "the longer your streak counter, the more you lose if you give in". I disagree because there are people who used to masturbate like everyday and now they masturbate only once or twice a week and this is a progress these people should be proud of. Later they will evolve to once or twice per month until they finally reach full celibacy of masturbation. Also, the longer your streak, I believe the easier it gets to get there and go even longer, the counter is only a psichological thing because what we're really searching for here is recovery from an addiction, not days we manage to stay away from it. That's for the people here who are addicted to PMO or fapping and want to change their lifes and recover from this addiction, not for the people who are here just challenging themselves. That's my opinion, I agree with the rest of what you said. Peace.

 

As someone already said...this is excellent.

 

Every reset is a learning opportunity. I also think it is important to list your streaks in your signature box because otherwise the only streak you see is your current streak. You should keep your successes in front of you at all times.

 

Yoga/meditation is a good way to quiet the urge!

 

Cold showers are great. They don't get rid of urges, but they help you embrace and get rid of them better. I have been taking cold showers for over 40 days, and I haven't relapsed. Along with cold showers, praying also helps me. God is always willing to help his people in time of need. I was only able to kick the habit because of Him.

~Squeaky Soul

 

I agree with Squeaky. Cold showers are good and awesome. Just stay strong

 

For me it's been useful to think about the people in the videos I'm watching. I think about how they're real human beings, who love and laugh and feel, and the thing I'm watching, well it's a complete invasion of their privacy and character. Sex is meant to be such an intimate act, yet by watching porn we objectify the subjects and take away any love or affection the act has. We are the consumer of the fatty food, we know it's bad, but we crave it all the same. But when you think about how that fatty food is made, the things that go into it, and the end product inside you, it can change your perspective. When the urges come step back, remove yourself from the immediate present and consider the bigger picture. Be at peace with yourself and accept that every single moment you ignore the urges you get stronger

 

And remind yourself of the consequences of doing and not doing. So you get a few moments pleasure and lose the prospect of long term freedom, self respect, integrity, improved self image, better relationships, better sex with living human beings, peace of mind and tranquility, the abilty to help and advise others, eventually being able to be alone (even with your internet connection) and feel relaxed and at peace, the knowledge that you are no longer contributing to the exploitation of others and maybe even finding yourself on the side of the angels at last.

Anyone up for that lot?

 

IMO the cold shower technique is more about self discipline than anything

 

I am definitely for the cold showers. I have been taking them for over a month now and it feels great! Other then that it teaches you to go trough discomfort first, and then feel good. This is awesome, because you learn not to go for the quick-fixes, which porn helps you with, but to deal with the problem that made you want to look at porn in the first place (usually some sort of bad feeling).

 

I open this forum and write something on my diary, it helps me a lot.
A second tecnique that really works for me is taking a nap, and when I wake up all the urges are gone.

Good luck!