So i've been doing the NoFap challange for almost 2 weeks. And yes things has been going pretty good, w/o porn i can concentrate more in my studies and i got pretty energized but i'm still a little suck at socializing tho (im shy) but one thing for sure that nofap has makes me feel better. So 3 days ago i remember i had my first wet dream after a really long time (didnt remember the first one) but the thing is, in my wet dream i remember that after i almost reach my climax i dont know why but i stopped and i think that makes me refrain from cumming(did i just break the rule haha). And i spent the next day thinking about the wet dream looking the web and stuff and after i went to bed guess what i cant freaking sleep, i stay awake until like 2 am and i almost cum because of edging(thankfully i stop and finally managed to sleep) . and then the next day, i can sleep well but after i woke up i didnt get my wet dream. If wet dream is nature way of releasing sperm what'll happen if i didnt get wet dream? Will my ball be full and there will be something wrong? i've been feeling a little bit down lately because of that and i've an urge to fap(because of the edging). i think if i couldnt manage to get wet dream tonight i will M and reset my streak when i have time to spare. What do you guys think ? i know i may be rationalizing to myself but i don't know
Well there's a coincidence! I was just going to post about something very similar! I do think things will sort themselves out, and you might want to lay off the edging as that seems quite risky under the circumstances you describe. I woke up at 3am this morning with the very clear sense of being on the point of ejaculation. But without any erotic feeling . It was rather distressing. I have no idea whether or not this was prefaced by a trigger dream. Anyway I woke up and faced the choice of relieving the feeling by the most obvious means available, or sitting it out and waiting for things to calm down. I chose the latter. After about 40 minutes things had calmed down and I went back to sleep. I don't really know what to expect of WDs because I'm ashamed to say that i have been M-ing too much since quite a young age and so have never had one. It was clear to me last night that my body wants to release though. As I said above my instinct is that the body will sort things out by itself, even though some odd things might happen along the way. At least that is what I am hoping will happen.
I think the problem is that you have somewhat lost your focus because of edging. I did edge a week back and was furious with myself. You can do two things. Trust me this will definitely help- 1. Don't focus on characters of wet dream just ignore them. Instead focus on how great you were feeling before that. What activities you were doing that time. Hold that thought in your mind for 10minutes. Repeat this exercise in case this benefits. 2. Count your breath 100 times 3 times a day should take 5-7min. Repeat this exercise in case this benefits. Let me know your progress!! Cheers.
We have so many nice names! Edging, seems so fancy doesn't it? You masturbated. That is. No wonder you have not had a wet dream, because you masturbated that is. The 'M' in PMO, bring up wikipedia and take a look yeah you masturbated. Either change your goals or reset it's up to you.
Before I respond to your question, I just want to say how much I hate the word edging. All it is is a different name for masturbating designed to not sound like you actually masturbated. Don't get sucked in by the lie. Call it what it is and ditch it. Now to answer your question. Your balls will be fine. If they get sore, just put icepacks on them for a little while. Separate the icepacks from your skin with some cloth to avoid too much cold. Your body will dispose of excess semen either through a wet dream or your urine. I've also heard that it can be reabsorbed, but I haven't seen any evidence for that. So the jury is still out on that last one. Sometimes you will get an erotic dream that does not result in ejaculation, other times you may just have a nocturnal emission with no dream. Just trust your body to work everything out for you. Don't try to induce a wet dream, just let your body work at its own pace. Don't stress about it. Just enjoy life. Since you're new to nofap, I have some other advice for you. You may relapse, a lot. The key to success is to forgive yourself and get back up. Keep giving it your all, and you will soon be in a far better place than you are now.
@itornael & @Icyweb, you're both wrong about the origin and reason for using the word edging in relation to masturbation. Orgasm control, also referred to as edging... is a sexual technique which may be practiced... alone... and involves the maintenance of a high level of sexual arousal for an extended period of time without reaching orgasm. When practiced by males, orgasm control allows the practitioner to enjoy direct sexual stimulation without waiting through the refractory period common after orgasm... When practiced alone, orgasm control is beneficial for heightening sexual pleasure as well as a training tool which permits the practitioner to increase the duration of sex with a partner. For the female, because there is little or no post-orgasm refractory period, the practitioner can enjoy direct sexual stimulation for longer periods of time, as well as with increased frequency and intensity. For the male, the speed of the rubbing or stroking of the penis may vary to navigate right to the edge of ejaculation. With orgasm control, a male can experience a longer or more intense orgasm, as well as a larger volume of semen expelled during his ejaculation. Because solo masturbation allows for precise control over the feelings, the timing, and the speed of stimulation, many people practice orgasmic control by themselves. One technique, commonly referred to as "edging" is where one will masturbate up until the moment before reaching the plateau phase just before orgasm occurs, and then stop suddenly before experiencing a climax. Another technique, commonly referred to as "surfing" is where one will reach the plateau phase and slow down the stimulation to maintain a heightened level of sensation for an extended time. Repeating either of these techniques many times during a single masturbation session may result in a stronger, more intense orgasm. Many individuals assert that orgasm control is more often possible with masturbation... Masturbation is then the easy way to learn one's limits and could also be seen as the starting point in the technique of orgasm control. Orgasm control is most easily learned through solitary masturbation, although many individuals enjoy including elements of Orgasm Control in sex with a partner. Masturbation provides the individual with the opportunity of learning about their bodies and the amount of pleasure they can experience without reaching orgasm. Self-stimulation can help both men and women acknowledge the limits of their body and the techniques that may help them in controlling their orgasms. As it has been described by Steve Bodansky and Vera Bodansky in Extended Massive Orgasm: How You Can Give and Receive Intense Sexual Pleasure, masturbation practiced with the aim of orgasm control must be carried on with the purpose of making every stroke feel exquisite and not to relieve tension, like "simple" masturbation does. In order to practice this other type of masturbation, the same authors suggest gradual stimulation of the genitals and then making connections between the primary area (penis or clitoris) and the secondary area (lips, nipple or other part of the body that is an erogenous zone). The connection between the two areas is established once the individual stimulates them with exactly the same moves of the same intensity.
This is masturbation. If a person believes that masturbation is acceptable within certain boundaries, he can do it. I will of course advise against it, but ultimately it isn't my decision. However, I object to the practice of calling it something else, just because it's approached with a different mentality/there's no orgasm involved. I don't see much difference between the two. Sure, edging can be used with the goal of something good coming from it, but those same good things can come from practices which do not involve masturbating. So unless the actual goal is to masturbate, there is no reason to "edge." Some might argue that edging is less addictive than masturbating to orgasm, but I have read posts on this site of people who were more addicted to edging than they were to either porn or orgasm.
I feel this is derailing from the initial topic. Thank you @IGY owl for the explanations, I had no idea such a thing exists. Indeed if someone is seeking more control and more pleasure with a partner I acknowledge it's a valuable tool. To me, as I am doing a hard mode reboot, would be a miserable fail. All depends on which goals one set for himself. I am having porn flashback on my mind without even touching my penis. If I touch it I know where it would end. I end up being so repetitive when answering this kind of questions. OP, you shouldn't ask others if you fail. Look at your goals (if you set one) and check. It's obvious most of the time.
Edging isn't a euphemism for masturbation. It's not a fancy word for masturbation, nor is it a lie. I agree it's masturbation. But masturbation is usually taken to include an orgasm, whereas edging only takes you to the "edge" of an orgasm. If one is trying to reboot their brain, edging is unacceptable. I would argue that edging is much more addictive than masturbation which results directly in orgasm as soon as the climax of arousal is reached. Edging results in a greater release of dopamine than any other behaviour and considerably more than masturbation followed by orgasm and cum.
