Casual sex - Is it bad?

I do not recomend casual sex for a few reasons.
It is another dangerous detour like PMO that complicates an eventual stable long term relationship. It is with a real life person, but it isn't an integral part of our own reality if it's casual.
It can't be completely equal. Somebody will get used more and somebody else will get more what they want.
It is enjoyable in the moment, but years later, when we look back at it, from a more stable relationship, we feel ashamed of it or hurt from it.
Too often casual sex is arm twisting, manipulating, and dream bursting. Without good open intimate dialogue, it results in multiple misunderstandings. It was good while it lasted, but casual sex doesn't last that long, while the emotional after-effects last and last.

 

Da fuk is casual sex

 

Sleeping around or having one-night stands.

It is referred to casual sex in contrast to sex with a partner you are committed to in a relationship.

 

Hey man it's called love making for a reason.
I have a girlfriend whom I love unconditionally.
My problem? I have been struggling to recover from porn since a few weeks and I'm looking to 'spending time with her' as a way of letting out all the sexual frustration of not masturbating and not viewing porn.
Apart from feeling like using her, I feel no change in the frustration I experience because of not beating my meat to porn.
Porn is very different from sex. I like porn for different reasons. Sort of like visual virtual entertainment.
Sex is not the answer.
Cheers.

 

I'm not sure a 14 year old should be seriously contemplating casual sex nor a serious stable relationship, as others have suggested. Am I just way too old school in my line of thinking here?

 

Casual sex is the same as porn, except you use real people instead of pixels to satisfy your urges and get a dopamine high. Novelty of a new person, and the thrill of a stranger is the same as that of porn. it also does not let you have satisfying relationships as easily!

 

It's so not the same. Don't compare the novelty of porn, maybe 20 different girls in 15 minutes to the novelty of casual sex.

 

Then go against sex too.

 

Lol... For those of us who have had sex know it to be way more than satisfying your urges or getting a dopamine high. It's not just a physical act unlike pmo or casual sex. Sex with a partner manifests at emotional and mental levels too. It's not just genitals meeting and friction and BAM! Porn is in fact responsible for taking away this feeling of connection and vulnerability from sex as many people say and as research shows. For youngsters who get knowledge of sex from porn, it sets a very distorted view and unrealistic expectations. Similar to casual sex as explained by another user above.

 

I'd say any experience is better than no experience, if you are aware there are consequences, and stay safe. What I would suggest is try to find a way to keep your semen, Mantak Chia's book Taoist Secrets of Love worked out just fine for me.
Peace