You know thy girls all complain about their boobs? I literally don't know a single girl that hasn't said she wants a boob job. I tell then they are perfect the way they are! They either don't believe me or still want bigger boobs. Anyway, I love boobs, a handful is enough two handfuls are cool too, but it doesn't matter to me. Bare in mind I'm not a boob man so maybe that's why, but I figure our dick size is the same. I am about 6 3/4 inch, and I've always been told I have a big dick. I thought 8-9 was big. But I realise now that is way above average and rare. My ex went out with a guy with a huge dick and told me it hurt her when having sex. Too big is baaaaad! Porn teaches us that bigger the better, that's not the case! I give girls please only putting half in, so like 3-4inch and they are moaning. It's all in your head man, honestly.
Interesting points all around. Honestly even if I was incredible at sex its not going to happen. Anyway I feel like I hijacked this thread. Thanks for the replies!
I remember saying the same thing to my ex when we first got together because I felt uncomfortable showing my dick when it was flaccid. A few months later I could barely understand anymore why I felt so weird about it at first. I've got a grower as well, somewhere around average, I haven't measured it since I was a teenager. But I think it's mostly a question of getting used to each other, open up and dare to make yourself vulnerable in each other's presence. Just as much as you wouldn't tell her your deepest secrets right up front. I was once dating a girl for a while that would not take her bra off during sex even though she had at least a decent B-cup, so it's not just guys that have issues like that. I'd suggest to start slow and focus on the girl instead of your insecurities. I just plain forgot about it after a while because I was way too excited about everything else that was going on when we started undressing Also I remember that I always felt more comfortable with being naked after we had sex, maybe because I had just reassured myself I could actually please her. So try walking around naked after sex maybe!
Well my friends yesterday I showed it to a girl cause I had a boner. I just said you wanna see it she said yes. So that helped me alot but I didnt get any sexual favor other then kissing and and feeling cause she didnt wanna do anything else. So that was a good relief even though I got blue balls haha it hurt haha but it was good. I'm still nervous to show it when its soft though but I will do it if I feel like it lol. But yea thats whats new with me as far as women and no pmo. Thanks for all the posts, you guys are really smart and honestly cool.
melancholyweightlifter, you're trapping yourself in your fears and don't want to hijack the thread because the safe little world you've built is being challenged from all sides. The denial you're actively exhibiting keeps your world mediocre but stable. This is fine if you're happy like that, there is no right or wrong, but make sure you know you are and if your not the act on that feeling because it won't act on itself. No one can help you but yourself. [And terribly sorry if I've missed that mark here, I'm basing this off of two or three forum posts after all!]
what's the purpose of this post other than letting us know that your hobby is to show your penis to girls?
Definanly the farthest thing from a hobby! I havent done anything like that at all to be honest untill yesterday. It felt really good to show someone for the first time completley hard. Showing someone my flacid size is where I get scared it wont get hard or they will judge me.
ok so take your courage in both hands and show the girl your penis in flacid size, you will see it will be fine, I believe in you !
The only reason I said I hijacked the thread is because it was supposed to be about leemac, not me. What exactly am I denying? How is my life mediocre? I have a dozen reasons other then performance anxiety for my decsion to remain celibate. I've opened my deepest insecurities on this forum, that is far from building a safe reality. You're painting with a very broad brush my friend.
Man, I must say that there are many ways to have sex that do not necessarily involve penetration, which I see as a part of a sexual relation. You can use other parts of your body, [nsfw] like your hands or your mouth. If you are truly concerned about the size of your penis, you could talk with your partner and maybe consider using a dildo on her (I'm assuming your hetero here, but change the gender as appropropriate [/nsfw] If there is something more than just physical attraction, the sizes and shapes tend to be secondary for the sex, the emotional connections usually more proeminent. Just my 2 cents.
Right. I understand. I really do. Enough of you have told me it doesn't matter. I'll take your word for it.
This thread has alot of truth to it. Accepting yourself for what you are is the best thing to do, because like a few of you have said, we are much more then just a body and a penis. Just like women are more then just tits, ass, and a vagina, even though I have troble not objectifying them because of porn. Just relax and breath deep, quit porn, and things will work out. Im on like 2 weeks of NoFap and if I really feel the urge to release I'm going to push through it and stay busy. My last resort is to just rub one out without porn because I usally have a full blown pmo relapse. If I had a wet dream that be cool because I could kinda que into when my body is fully charged ( lol ) and intercept the wet dream with a porn free masturbation. Best of luck friends. Lee
