What's Wrong With This Site

Brother,
I look at your previous posts and heaps of people have replied to you..

 

I don't respond o every post I read. it doesn't mean I don't care. a lot of times someone has already said what I was going to say, or I just don't know how to respond and other times I just don't have time or brain power to respond but reading others comments can help myself. I'm sorry that you feel this community is not as close together as you might like, but we all are in the same boat and we all do care. stay strong dude!

 

You can meet your goals!

I applaud:
1. your honesty
2. your looking for support
3. your high goal of hitting nearly a month without porn. Tough stuff, I'm not there yet!

I recommend:
1. you read and comment on other people's posts. When we reach out, we break out of our habits!
2. you look for support off this site as well as on it!
3. you stay positive even if you fail a few times before reaching your goal. One week is hard, three is harder. Expect setbacks, but also final victory!

 

People simply don't have the time to reply to everything. I last logged on here last Wednesday or Thursday basically a week ago.

 

I agree, ItShallBeDone. Considering the 150+ people reading General NoFap at any one time there doesn't seem to be a lot of writing activity. I am guessing there is a lot of reading and learning being done. So, those who do write have to find some comfort that their words are being received and presumably having a positive affect.

You have to remember that the people here are PMO addicts. They are not used to sharing, giving, empathising, sympathising, encouraging people. PMO addicts, when on the internet, are solitary, secretive, selfish, confused, pained people who are used to mindlessly consuming with no effort required of them to participate in anything other than their own momentary pleasure. Am I being mean to my fellow PMO addicts - I'm sure I am. Sorry - exaggerating to make a point.

I write to loads of Newbies and reply to lots of people in General NoFap. My response rate recently is about 1 in 10 (that's a guess - NoFapAsian ). For a while I took it personally, worried that people didn't like me, that I was saying the wrong thing, was driving people away and recently, worried my earnestness was triggering people. But your thread has shown me that it isn't just me, it is in fact because this site is full of people who are struggling with their addiction and supporting, sharing and thanking is not something that may not come naturally to many when stressed. And let's face it, the majority of us are men and, to stereotype us all, we aren't exactly known for getting together and having a good chat.

So I totally agree in your encouragement to get people posting. If you are a newbie then the best thing you can do is to say hello. And when people reply, reply back, enter a discussion, form friendships, support networks. If you reply to a thread acknowledge others in that thread. Yellowtimo, your comment made me stop and think; Up up and away, I admire your strength to continue without continuous reassurance of noFap.com. And if you read a thread, but don't think you have anything profound to offer, just say "Well done!" or "Me too". Just two words can lift someone's spirit enough to get them through another day.

I ramble on - another of my faults.

Good luck, everyone!

 

I posted yesterday in this section with no response

 

Yeah I noticed that, I wrote a journal of myself with the day 1 but I only got one reply and 20 views!
Some people replied to my posts and I really thank them for that and that's enough,we people should stick together because now I realize we can't do it by ourselves. Anyway that doesn't mean to stop, I'll keep be more cooperative and I'm sure I'll find some good people will do the same. Good luck bro don't give up.

 

I don't know what it is, maybe because I'm new, but half of the post I tried to post were to be approved by a moderator. I posted an encouraging post for slimseany at the newbies part of the forum but it had to be approved by a moderator. This is VERY annoying!

Edit: Ah good, this post got through.

 

Search the forum for a moderator (Abel is one), send them a message asking what is going on. Posts shouldn't need moderating unless something is wrong.

 

Don't be discouraged if there is little response at first. I am new and I spend more time replying to posts than starting a thread myself. I introduced myself and got some encouragement from others but I am more looking to be an encouragement to others. That's how I help myself; by helping others. Keep up the good work!

 

Amen, brother.

 

true dat. DOUBLE TRUE

 

I've just posted this message and nobody has responded.

 

Hey ItShallBeDone, I know how you feel, but that's just the nature of forums on the internet in general, not just this one. I've been to several where, as the newb, I didn't really get any attention or replies. But do what Panda here says, that's really good advice.

Troll is troll. (And yes, I responded to your message)

 

You didn't respond to mine

 

Kinda true.. when no one replys it kinda sucks..

 

This place is like a Ferris wheel.

You get in, you take a spin and you get out. Then there goes new people and they take a spin and get out.

What I mean is, all I see over this forum are the same questions: "have I relapsed if I did this but didn't do that", "does nofap make you womanizer", "does my dick fall off if I don't use it" etc. etc. These questions are something, that I've asked too probably, because that's the spin we take here. Then we get out and walk towards our goals.

That's why I don't answer too often anymore. Questions are the same and my answers too. I don't want to write the same shit in every thread.

 

Daaaaamn! 253 days? Thats a lot. I am not changing the subject, just admiring

~Squeaky Soul