Should I tell my therapist/psychologist? Anyone has advice?

You theropy won't work if your not totally open with your therapist....I told my female theropy every deepest darkest secret/sexual fantasy everything within first one or 2 sessions. You have to put everything on table to move forward in the most optimal way!

 

If you spend time and money on professional help then at least get the most out of it.

 

you should definetely mention nofap and say that you think/feel that not watching porn makes you feel better. Your therapist will give you advice and tell you his opinion on the NoFap. plus you are paying for this.

 

Yes definitely tell your therapist about ALL of your struggles. You will not regret it and get the help that you need. In addition to the great people on this site, your therapist will help you dive deep into why you struggle and have turned to PMO which will open your eyes to how to fight it. Best of luck to you!

 

Hey, you should definitely tell the therapist. He/She is a professional and will act accordingly. You shouldn't fear them judging you. If they do judge you I suggest you leave immediately and find a new therapist. Good luck!

 

I just want to say I absolutely love the movie "Donnie Darko" so... off topic I know but your avatar so yeah. Oh and uhhh good luck with your therapist

 

I just want to know what your therapist recommend you to do so if you can please PM me what he / she says that would be greatly appreciated.

 

I wouldn't mind knowing what your therapist said either, if you wouldn't mind posting it here that would be great.

 

I suggest that you get in the mindset of opening up about the details of your sexual history (re: masturbation, porn etc) here, first! Here it is anonymous; you are not face to face; you can blush or whatever and no one is aware of it; you can practice using the vocabulary you will need. In so doing, it may well help to organise your thoughts about where to start and how to put it over.

 

Im very happy for you! I think it was definitely the best decision (telling your therapist). Good luck on this!

 

This is great man, I'm really happy that you went through with it and told your therapist.

I am actually in a similar situation, but my therapist is a woman... so it is kind of awkward in that sense. Lol. But I'm not sure that I'm going to bring it up soon, because I am only able to see her every other week, and there are plenty of other things that I want to discuss with her. But if the situation arises then I think I'll just blurt it out.

I think so, too, that researching and finding things out on my own really helped me realize a lot of thing about myself. So in a way, I was being my own therapist. I think for now this is great, and if I'm having trouble with it I might bring it up.

But anyway, that's great to hear, I hope that things become clearer for you as time goes on!

 

Hello Donnie, I'm glad you made your choice on telling your therapist about that,good move man
If there is any chance can you tell us what he suggested to you beside what you said? Does quitting will get my social life better?
I would be very appreciated because I have the same problem too.

 

I would like to know what the therapist says next session as well. If you want to share of course.

 

I agree with everyone above that telling is of course best but not every professional is fully up to speed on this issue as the results are still coming in (as they say). I would also point them to YBOP and especially the recently published Voon study which makes it clear that the brain on porn looks exactly like the brain addicted to substances. It's the same chemistry even if the "experts" haven't yet caught up on that point. They will in time. But don't let your therapist kid you along with the traditional advice which is now hopelessly disproven e.g. Don't worry, it's normal, it's natural, it doesn't do any harm, it's good for you, it's healthy, enjoy yourself, don't feel guilty etc. These are the messages that got us into this fix. It is not natural or healthy or good for you and thousands of guys on nofap will confirm it does do you harm. PMO is NOT sex. Sex is normal, natural and healthy and builds healthy relationships which are the basis for a healthy society and well balanced kids. PMO is NOTHING like that. Sorry for shouting but it is such a lie. I hope you have a therapist who is up to speed with the science and psychology!

 

Good job dude!! Keep us posted...

 

Well done Donnie Darko. I know how difficult it is to voice this stuff to people face to face. I saw a therapist a few years ago and I had to tell him about porn, chat sites, dressing up. I am 40 and that was still really difficult.

Also, although lots of people are asking, don't feel obliged to report back from every therapy session just because people want to know what the therapist says. Therapy is a very private thing and you shouldn't feel under pressure to undergo therapy on behalf of lots of P addicts who either can't afford to go to therapy or who are too afraid to.

Anyone who wants online therapy should perhaps search for something suitable on Google. I just had a look and there are quite a few different options ranging through free, cheap and professional.

Good luck!