Does fetish go away?

It definitely diminishes as you quit feeding it. That means you quit looking at it, you quit thinking about it, and you find something healthy and rewarding to spend your time and energy in. Years down the road, your fetish may pop up from something you see, but it is a minor skirmish if you don't feed it.
You can search the forums to see how others here have progressed through specific fetishes. Whatever yours is, you probably aren't the first one here to have it. Sharing it also takes away its power.

 

from my inner experience , a fetish is born out of my addiction . It can change , transform and grow into something else because the mind is chasing another fetish-high . I am 29 years old . I have acquired 20 different type of fetishes over the years . I gave them power . I grew them , and moved on to something else .
I "believe" that the more natural my mind becomes the more the fetishes will start to disappear . Yes they will come from time to time , but they wont have power like they once had .

 

Trust the process!

 

I have a worn pantie fetish suppose it just a pantie fetish but worn ones especially.
I threw them all in the bin 8 days ago deleted my 2000 follower Twitter account which was all fetish....
I seriously don't miss them because I tell myself I want a norm sex life again not raging erections over fetish induced pictures....
So I'm 8 days clear not masturbated once and panties are not in my thoughts....my thoughts are for a norm sex life not PIED.

 

I am impressed. That is a very big step in the right direction. You may find yourself thinking, "What have I done?" Know that you did good. You stepped out in courage and you can now see this through to a new life. It is something that you can brag about, but you may want to pick your audience carefully. I'm glad you shared it here. It is encouraging.

 

i dont think so

 

I was born with a Fetish, and till today I am fighting, in fact.. it is hard, but for the last three years, I won three months free on the following last three years, once I had finished those months, I each time feel that I became a new person, and I look at the amount of Fetish were developed within time like Seriously I was doing that !!

But I relapse, I dive again, and it controls me worse than it was before.

I don't know if a Fetish is different than normal porn.. although I am really tired of struggling, If you really want to become free, you would have no choice, but to fight back.. again and again and again.

We can have challenge together that would motivate us.

I still believe that I can battle this after 14 years of struggling I shall be free.. So are you !

 

Great !! We can do it, We shall be free

 

"Fetishes"--in the sense that some things are particularly erotic--are pretty normal. For example, if you have a fetish about undergarments, and your partner doesn't mind, then by all means, enjoy it while you're together. "Fetishes," like so many other things only become a problem if they lead you to abusive or illegal behaviors, or if, like any other behavior, they become addictive and begin to interfere with the life you want to lead. So everything has to be considered in its context. A behavior that is harmless or even helpful in one context may be destructive in another.

There are people who have "sweater" fetishes: they love surrounding themselves with wool and other fibers. They write erotica about sweater-wearing during sex. If that turns you and your partner on, then great, fill your closet with sweaters and learn to knit. That one seems pretty harmless to me.

And no, I don't think they "change," but as others have said, their voices grow quieter the more you establish patterns that you want. I think that what we find erotic is very complex, and sometimes, those unconscious connections form deep in childhood.

 

So not hope to change it ? Especially if that was leading to something that the society u live with won't accept (even u would not), and most fetishes are like that.

Also if someone was single.. has no gf.. or his culture believes in marriage, which needs time... And the person won't know if his future wife would accept it or not.

 

I had a couple of these kind of "purges", when i destroyed all my fetish related paraphernalia. They growed again. But during reboot i felt like i didnt need fetish to enjoy sexuality, "normal" stuff was completely satisfying, though my fetishes remained. I dont see a problem with fetishes really, people who really care about you see past that.

 

I believe what was said is that if your fetishes lead you to destructive behavior then yes they are problems and you should avoid feeding them, but if hey are somewhat harmless and you can enjoy it with your partner then why not.

On the OP question in my experience yes they tend to fade away, not entirely but then are less frequent in my mind. I used to not be able to sleep because my mind would go full blown on fetishes scenarios and now when I go to sleep my mind is on other stuff like what can I do for work or even other memories... I still have the fetishes thoughts now and then but the difference is that I step out of them and see that they are just thoughts and that's fine, in a matter of seconds they go away and I move on to whatever I was doing.

 

Right. I just mean to say that the whole relationship between fantasy and sex is immensely complicated, so you have to give all of the things that turn you on a very thorough examination: Why am I interested in these things? What harm do they cause myself or others? How are they or are they not interfering with my healthy sex life.

Don't just try to stomp them out: If you don't understand where they come from or how they may or may not be harmful, they will remain powerful and beyond your power of choice.

 

Very strongly disagree. It's not about them being normal or not. It's about where they come from, regardless of whether they are harmful/problematic or not. It's simple, if it's porn induced, it will go away if you abstain. I don't know why people expect them to go away in months if it comes from something you have been doing for years. Only superficial, fairly new fetishes will disappear within months. It will take years to get rid of an older fetish.