~197 days PMO free.... Still have ED? Didnt rewire correctly?

Hello fapstronauts!

I began my journey March 28 of this year to destroy the PMO addiction in my life. On June 24th I successfully completed my HARD mode 90 day challenge. And since then, have abstained from PMO and pornography viewing entirely (Thanks to my brothers on this site, and the good lord). The goal of my journey was to rid my life of the ED I had experienced with a few girls, and after my 90 days I was VERY confident that my problem was resolved (Very firm erections after very mild physical stimulation).

Shortly after this I began experimenting with MO very occasionally, and tried to keep it to less than 2 times per week. Sometimes when things got stressful I would spill into 3 times, but nothing I didnt think was too much for my newly rebooted brain could handle. (Still true to this day)

In July, I began dating a girl whom I am very fond of, and we are now in a relationship. I think she is ADORABLE and amazing and someone who I want to be intimate with. This is the problem. I dont know if I am just not sexually attracted to her, or that my brain never rewired correctly, but when we start to get intimate, I cannot achieve a full erection. I can lay on my bed with no visual stimulation or pornography or even fantasy in my mind and still achieve an erection based solely on physical stimulation. However with her I simply cannot do it.

I have no idea what is wrong. I feel like I should be a STUD in bed, and yet I feel like I am at stage 1. Is this a medical problem? Do I just not have sexual feelings for her? Is my brain not wired for real sex anymore? Did I doom myself with a porn addiction starting at 13? Am I just stressed? Performance anxiety?

Any input/ suggestions/ feedback would be greatly appreciated. Thank you brothers