29y looking for helpful advice along my nofap quest

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by CheckmateTheDemiurge, Apr 2, 2020.

  1. CheckmateTheDemiurge

    CheckmateTheDemiurge New Fapstronaut

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    Hi, I am new to this forum. I am here to ask for your advice, and also tell you guys that no matter how dark things may look now, we must stay strong and never give up. Mind over matter... I decided that as of today I'm far enough into my journey of NoFap that I should start talking about it more and try to build a support network, because I've told very few people so far, mostly due to guilt and all that.

    I'm 29 years old. I've known about NOFAP for years, but never took it seriously. In fact I haven't really followed this forum much, but I have listened to a lot of Coach Noah on youtube the past few months. In November 2019 I was inspired to finally cut the PMO addiction that had been ruining my life for years. I've lost many connections with people and wasted years of my life due to porn. I'd been used to using that as a crutch on a daily basis, whenever things with women didn't work out, I'd always turn back to PMO, but that just continued to feed the archons and make my life more miserable. I realized there was more going on than just the physiological depletions, that I was also at a spiritual war within myself. During NoNut November I only relapsed twice, which was a new record for me. In December there were a few relapses, but I made a decision at the end of the year that I will uphold no matter what.

    On January 1st 2020 I vowed to never PMO again for the rest of my life... Today is currently day 93 of the journey, and I have not relapsed since. This is a new era where I no longer make excuses to hide from who I want to be in life. I'd rather die than relapse (though I hope to avoid both), because living the rest of my life as a PMO slave is one of the worst things I can imagine. I'm sure for most people it's not that big of a problem, but for me it has been... imbalanced, to say the least. During January and February I started going out more, meeting women, and making great progress, although it has been full of twists and challenges. Since then I've slowly been repairing my brain, which likely had extreme chemical damage from all the years of junk food, dopamine saturation and excessive PMO habits for 15 years. There are lots of things I'm still working on, but improving my diet and working out has also helped a lot. I don't know if we can ever truly 'recover' from addictions, since the neural pathways are permanent structures, but with hedonic adaptation we can eventually modify those pathways with more or less healthier habits.

    I know I'm not fully recovered yet, because I've replaced PMO addiction with sex addiction. But for me, that is healthier, yet it requires even more caution to stay safe. In March though, along comes the COVID, right as I'm starting to make my biggest strides and learning to break out of my shell in public. Now I am locked down in quarantine, but I am still not going to relapse. I just got out of another toxic relationship with an emotionally abusive individual, it pained me so much do the right thing, but I had to do what was best, and I refuse to let that weaken my resolve in any way either. I've been through that runaround enough times to know there are always more fish in the sea. I'm learning how to not let fear control me anymore; and this virus is not going to make me relapse. Nothing will, even if I have to endure far more suffering than originally planned. I don't give a rat about any free porn subscriptions now... There are many nights where I barely sleep, because of the astral demons that attack me. I know wet dreams are not a relapse, but I still see them as a negative form of energy vampirism. It may not be feeding the same archons that PMO does, but to me it's still a form of "loosh harvesting". Nocturnal emissions drain your energy and are based on deception of the mind, just like porn, which is why I think it helps to try to minimize those too during the reboot process.

    I've had to deal with a few of those so far, but I'm not letting those cause a relapse either. Most nights I encounter some kind of entity trying to attack me, but I usually am able to fight them off. Perhaps that is just part of the subconscious deprogramming symptoms from all the messed up porn I used to watch. In wake of everything happening in the world these days, I feel more determined now than ever before to fix my life and I know that for me, NoFap is one of the greatest tools I have in my arsenal for this purpose. I hope at the very least, I can find even more inspiration here, and try to help others who are on a similar path. Some things I know help for sure includes Monk Mode, avoiding all PMO triggers, limiting dopamine saturators such as video games, eating healthier, doing creative activities, grounding, lowering EMF exposure, burning incense, avoiding stressful thoughts, positive affirmations, meditations, and cold showers. It looks like I'll be giving online dating another chance now, though I've never had much luck with that compared to meeting women in person. Any tips from the community here will be greatly appreciated. Also recommended books, videos, etc.
     
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    | Nico | Distinguished Fapstronaut
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    Hey @CheckmateTheDemiurge welcome to nofap community i was really surprised that you were able to achieve 93 days thats really impressive, you are really determined to never PMO thats excellent keep it going, best of luck buddy, take care :)
     
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  3. The Free Bird

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    Hi and welcome to the community

    I would recommend you to stay in touch with members and read their success stories. You may also learn tricks to avoid the short-term pleasure and to face the temptations.

    Be AWARE of your habits and control what you see and what/who you spend your time with.

    It's also important to limit the usage of social media. In addition, never be free! Use your free time as much as possible and do sports, exercise, attend classes, etc.


    This video contains everything that you need to know about porn addiction. Lastly, here is a collection of ways to deal with the urges which worked great for me.

    ֍ You got this my friend ֍
     
    Last edited: Apr 3, 2020
  4. Hey welcome to the NoFap forum : )

    It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!


    First let me go ahead and drop some helpful links for you:

    Getting Started Guide / Forum Rules / How to Use the NoFap forums/ Glossary/ NoFap Panic button / Set up your day counter / Rebooting Resources/ About NoFap/ Support NoFap


    Here is just some advice:


    First and foremost please take a look at each section in the forum, there might be something(s) you may find of big help to you. Feel free to post there :+)


    Then secondly I just advise you to be active on your profile(as there a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then make daily status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement. They've also got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see. People will find your profile and give you encouragement/support.


    Theres a portion of people who love communicating in the profile section..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive talk. It would be great to have you join in and support others in the threads, profiles, and journal. Make sure and be grateful for the help you received and give some help after receiving some. Invest in some people's journeys. We could always use your help and in return you shall receive some as well!


    Thirdly, You should also highly consider creating a public journal/log (in the appropriate section for you) and write about your days in more depth for us members to follow along your journey and offer support to you by way of posting in your journal.


    Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!

    P.S Congratulations on 90+ days PM (porn and masturbation) free! Thats incredible.
    I am truly hoping the forum can fortify you through this quarantine period!
     
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