Hi Guys, I hope you all had a great weekend. I am 40 yrs old and heard about your community by randomly google searching. I think my search phrase was 'benefits of giving up porn or masturbation'. Then an article on Daily Mail UK ( or Daily Telegraph) came up with the title 'why more and more men chose not to masturbate'! And in that article I read about nofab community! My last serious relationship was around 2 years ago, and before that, I think it was 10 years! I joined a dating webiste in 2008 and most of my dates ended up in bed in the form of one night stands!! Which was fun at the time. However, I lost that sense of relationship which a man should have before he meets the right girl. Unfortunately, I went through a couple of financial/emotional issues which made me contact friends/family on a very limited basis and , somehow, I ended up PMOing , sometimes 3 times a day, to the point of addiction. Although I have always been very sporty while PMOing, I have realised that the older I get the less I am appealing to ladies. plus, with all that PMO addiction, I found myself having less and less energy to do normal things and was somehow forced to depression and disfunctionality. And drinking excessive alcohol has made it even all worse. So, I said to myself: 'enough if enough' I want to be in control, I want to look different, I want to act like a man and I want to fall in love with the girl I love maybe for the first time. That said, I have to admit: I am doing this diet not because PMO is bad. Porn is very beautiful, sex and masturbation are all amazing beautiful things. However, there has always been much more into me than PMO and I wanted to develop my personality far beyond where I was/am now. Giving up PMO does not address my personal/mental issues I mentioned above. However, it leaves me with excess energy to deal with those matters. I might even come back to PMO in the future when I feel that it could be part, not all, of my fun life, i.e. when I can control my sexual desire. OR the experience of giving up PMO temporarily might even show me a different path through life by which I do not feel the necessity to do PMOs. What I like about your community at nofap is that all variation of watering down PMOs are welcome, whether it's strict or moderate. And I like the encouragement people get from one another to complete their goals. I hope this website brings new light into my life. And I hope, by sharing my thoughts with others and vies versa, I feel I won't be alone in this challenge. So far, I'm on my 9th day of PMO free life style, I already feel the energy and happiness this limited number of days has brought for me. I am more confident when talking to people, I am more articulate while talking to people and I feel I play sports which much more energy. Even my sleep pattern ha changed; I used to wake up like 9 times during night making me feel so drained in the morning. But I have been able to have a couple of nice night sleeps over then last couple of days sleeping continuously without any interruption. I am also on reddit.com and my badge in there shows a 9 day. I still do not know how I'm supposed to use this website along with reddit.com, but I'm sure I'll figure that out!! Good luck to all, and thanks for reading All the best Blue Rose
Thanks KrmGrn, I wish I could also control the drinking a bit more to feel the energy even more, maybe that will come next!! Have a great day.
