On Early Relapsing: I haven’t relapsed once since I started the NoFap. Not even once. I’m not lying. So, what, am I cut from a different cloth? Why am I different from the other guys? I see posts of guys who can’t go past day 4 or day 20, struggling. Like this is supposed to be a hard won fight, a Rocky Balboa match, a pushing of a huge rock, uphill, in the snow. And that is exactly how you stay addicted, by making a struggle out of it. That’s the only difference between winners and losers. Winners learned how to not make a struggle out of it. Serotonin and Dopamine, the happiness or achievement substances in our brains. We know enough about them. We know we don’t produce those when we think about student loans, when we lose a martial arts battle, when we study for a test, when we do something that’s difficult for us and we can feel the opponent, whether it’s a math subject, a loan, or just anxiety itself, winning. Actually, in the case of a martial arts fight, at least you know you dared, and that is an achievement of sorts. So you might just produce a little bit of dopamine by the excitement of the challenge. But here’s what I’m getting at: in the brain chemistry sense, it is actually better to go get your ass kicked in a dojo than to sit down and to try not to think about porn. You won’t produce dopamine nor serotonin if you just sit your ass down and think about not thinking about porn. How the fuck do you pretend to go beyond day 20 if you haven’t occupied every second of your life in this release from one of the most difficult addictions, and perhaps the one least understood by scientists so far, if you haven’t made the necessary changes in your lifestyle? It’s easy: Not watching porn = uncomfortable struggle. Watching porn = Comfortable release. So your brain’s never going to produce dopamine if you don’t do happy shit. Your life outside of the porn world is so difficult, so it keeps craving the release. It keeps reminding you that it knows where the last depot of dopamine is… Inside the porn world! You can’t not fix a portion of your life and expect NoFap to work. You need to get dopamine from something else. Peace of mind, fun, human contact. I know some of you may be shy, depressed, or what not, but if you don’t get the dopamine then you will relapse, or you will make a struggle out of not relapsing. That’s when relapsing is nothing but a time bomb. Your struggle until you give in, then you convince yourself you are weak, dirty, low self-esteem comes, and now you can’t go out again. You’re even shier than before Seriously, if you guys keep relapsing before day 20 you either need to see a psychiatrist and tell them you’re depressed, or you need to fucking get out more. Constant relapse just involves some dumb self-sabotage to unconsciously preserve your identities as failures. Constant relapsing folks are just people afraid to succeed in my opinion. I am afraid to succeed, God knows I am. But at least I stay busy! That’s all I have to say. 60 days hard mode, PMO’ing since age 14, and can’t believe people self-sabotage before day 20. YOU decide whether it’s easy or not. It doesn’t have to be a struggle. Maybe you need it to be a struggle, maybe you need to feel like those dumb heroes from dumb Michael Bay movies who blow shit up and go to war for bullshit reasons while getting the blonde in the process. Life’s not like that. At least dopamine and serotonin are not like that, they are about peace, love, harmony, and understanding. Keep Calm and quit pretending this is a struggle. I think about NoFap so little I hardly ever post every 30 days or something like that. And btw, I think the whole army idea of NoFap is stupid. The whole idea of war is stupid. Start having fun, for fuck’s sake. ------------------------------------------ EDIT: Some people found the tone in my post degrading. They are right, it was not my intention, but that's how the post turned out. So to clear the whole issue, a few remarks: 1.- I am not saying that I am indeed different from those who fail. I am not, no one is. Some people have decided to make a struggle out of NoFap. Those, of course, will have it the worst, and blame it on their brain chemistry. 2.- I know I made it sound like this was easy, but now I would like to, like in my previous post, give a short recount on the humnaongous amount of stuff I do to stay clear from porn. - Psychiatric help: I am being treated. Taking Paroxetine for depression and obsessive-compulsion. Huge Help! If you insist on blaming it on your brain, then go see a psychiatrist, already? They really can help you with depression and compulsion, they have medicine and stuff XD. - Zen Meditation: been practicing since about 5 years hard. - Boxing, Yoga and Salsa Casino: I consider salsa casino to be the most important of the three because there I have physical contact with women. Being hugged and touching other people balances your chemistry nicely. - Computer is: outside my room, k9 is in it. - Healing my relationship with my family: With therapy. This, I believe, is fixing the problem at its source. - Work: Trying to establish a decent, steady income. Failed so far, but still trying. - Love: Huge fail. Trying to focus on other goals. - Friends: Huge win. They know about my addiction, are very loving, very hugging and supportive. All of this is to make the abstinence process easier. Otherwise is you brain against itself. You have to make it fun outside the porn world! This is the ony difference between those who win and those who don't.