For the first time, I'm abstaining from porn and masturbation without a girlfriend. I've been crushing on this girl for a while and I've been visualizing dating and eventually sleeping with her. In this process, I feel I'd be comfortable enough to tell her my new years resolution of abstaining from porn and masturbation. It just occurred to me that I wouldn't want to sleep with just anyone. If I had an opportunity to sleep with a girl that I wasn't totally interested in, I don't want to have sex with her. If I'm going to have an orgasm in 2016, I want it to be with a girl that I like - not just any girl. This is a new feeling (opposed to the classic "I'll sleep with anyone" mentality). I think it closely ties with desiring more passionate sex opposed to just wanting to fuck someone. It's a nice feeling.
Honestly man after my 90 day period is over id prob fuck anyone willing to have sex with me. Id love to have the intimate connection and a mental one at that but i just feel really down and i dont wanna spew negativity but i just want any kind of physical touch right now
If i believed that any girl would actually like enough to have a real relationship with me i would be kidding myself. As a virgin of 22 years id love to be able to have sex for the first time with a girl i like and have a great connection with and someone who likes me and sees me as someone special but i just cant picture that. I absolutely agree with what you want but its hard when you might finally have sexual confidence but no one important enough to do it with
With context, I agree with what you're saying. In my shoes, I'm imagining sex with the girl I have a crush on and a girl who might have a crush on me. Imagining this a few weeks ago - I would sleep with either, while right now I'm not even turned on by the prospect of sleeping with the girl who might like me. I'm only turned on by the girl I'm crushing on. Obviously, this is just talk - I don't know how I'll react if a more clear opportunity presented itself...
