A discussion on why this forum is a better social media than all other typical social media

Think about facebook, insta, snapchat, etc. Doesn't it make you feel lonely, jealous, full of negativity. This is quite common in mainstream social media, which often tends to do the opposite of what it is supposed to do: create meaningful connections

I was describing to my girlfriend what NoFap was.

She told me "I find that so amazing that in the guy community, you guys stand up for each other. You would never find something like that for women."

I corrected her, "Not all guy communities are like this though. But NoFap is one of those places where people stick out for one another. It took a lot to even find them in the first place, I'm sure there is something similar on the women's side."

One might argue that this site is a social media which i guess it kind of is, but it doesn't produce any of the bad feelings from other social media like instagram. Idk about you but this forum is the best i have ever come across. It is therapeutic in many ways. how come? The thing that differentiates this forum from other social media is that its centered around helping other people, rather than showing off. The people here are supportive, they try to help one another, offer advice, and they are REAL. They are HONEST.

Social media is just a superficial display, an outward projection of happiness, which is fake. You can't connect in that way. Here, however, people reveal their real problems, they are vulnerable, and this facilitates a culture of trust. Forums like this is different, because everyone here have something that unites us (Our addiction, disgust for Pornography, etc)

The people here are friendly, nontoxic, supportive. This is the reason why this forum works so well. However, I have noticed lately that it seems kind of dead. Not nearly as many people contributing as say 1 or 2 years ago. Anyone else notice this?

 

My title says "this forum is a better social media" than other social media. so i said from the start that this site is a social media

The difference is their number of days is not being lauded and thrown in your face. The main content isn't about showing off or mindless gossip, its about supporting one another. And there aren't pictures either. I don't think most people's intentions is to brag about their counter btw, but rather just to keep track of their days. Also, keep in mind, a lot of people simply forget to update their counters. So a guy's counter that says he is on 500+ days could just be due to inactivity

Thats true, but it hardly generates a fraction of the jealousy, insecurity, negativity I feel from other social media. I have always felt this place to be quite homely, and full of positive vibes for the most part