Hello there fellow NoFappers, I am currently in my longest streak without watching POing (though some may disagree given what I have to say). Since Dec 28th or so. For many years now, I’ve had a particular fetish that was submissive (cuckold fetish) and that, for the life of me, I haven’t been able to get rid of. However, for the past two weeks or so, I have been masturbating (you could say edging without the O) without watching porn. Merely imagining. At some point during this, I began to develop an obsession with trans girls, femboys, etc. Not really sure why. I’ve become obsessed. Imagining “making love” (as opposed to just fucking) and really making her feel feminine and loved (this being at the heart of the sexual excitement I feel). While I can say that this is not ideal (my goals require a traditional family, though I’ve become really enamored with the idea of a cute trans gf), it is certainly progress from my previous position. To think I could see such a quick transition for submissive to dominant sexual tendencies in such a short amount of time. Most importantly, any speck of PIED has been completely resolved. My erections are stronger and more consistent than ever before. I am very happy about this aspect. I have heard it said that fetishes do not disappear but merely lessen in intensity. However, I have had previous fetishes that morphed into newfound ones and, after a while, truly did disappear. Certainly, if I can replace my old fetish with this one in such a way, I would. What do you guys think about this? I know most here seem to think that a true reset (minimizing sexual release of any form) is the best way forward. But should I, in order to solidify dominant tendencies, use this to my advantage? I must say, the eradication of my fetish is paramount, more important to me than the addiction itself. It is sexual functionality with women I seek above all else.
Do not think of them as real sexual tastes, porn naturally desensitizes you because of over porn consumption. Before Porn and masturbation i was purely attracted to just simple things like a cleavage or a girls eyes or her lips etc. But i notice now that my addiction has caused me to crave disgusting fetishes. But each day you go without pmo, the disgusting fetishes will no longer arouse you and the things that once excited you before will return, you will return to normal and many people have their doubts but do not focus on insecurity or anxiety or doubt, focus on your goal and do not rely on others to solve your problems, because only you can solve your problems.
On top of that do not get involved with faggot transgenders, they do nothing but confuse young people. They are boys pretending to be girls, and the best thing to do is reject them completely and accept the fact to NOT PMO! like i said not PMOing will bring back normal attraction, and overall you will return to normal with zero fetish!
Just realize that what led you to those fetishes in the first place was PMO. Consistant PMO. It's really easy to see the "progress" (Which is real), you've made and say "THIS IS BETTER"! because it's not as bad as it used to be. Recognize that it's better, but recognize what made it better. You didn't lessen your addiction and fetish's hold on you by clinging to them. I'm sure that your fetishes when you first started watching porn were fairly mild compared to the worst that you've seen. . . Don't cling to the "results" and see them as your solution. What has gotten you this far is by quitting entirely. That being said, from a chemical point of view, edging is far worse than PMO. I am NOT saying that you should PMO, or just MO. Do NOT use what I'm going to say as an excuse to get off. But from a chemical stand point, having your brain at an elevated level of dopamine for an extended period of time is actually worse for desensitization and addiction than just getting off quick and being done with it. The edging for 10,, 20 minutes, an hour or 3, is by FAR worse for your reset than getting it off for 30 seconds and bein done with it. Now. Realize that. Realize that getting off for 30 seconds is NOT good. And don't do either. Don't edge. Focus on fulfillment in other areas of life. Take the change in fetish as a Good SIGN, but not that the new fetish is not GOOD in itself. Keep pushing forward. Never settle for anything but love and intimacy. Cheers.
What I can't fucking believe is people are saying it's not a mental disorder. Well, there were never transgendered people before in history so it MUST BE a mental disorder. Plus it isn't backed by science and is not found in other species. I unfortanelty got addicted to transgendered person porn, but in reality would never even go near one, I hate them. Currently day 15.
Same dude, i kind of got addicted to that sissy crap as well, but i got out of it early and exactly the same as you i fucking despise those disgusting people, and yeah i would never go near one as well. The people who continue to deny that transgender ism is a mental illness can continue to be in denial because eventually their ignorance will lead them failure!
I think it is a mental disorder as well. It’s not real! It’s not genetic - It’s a choice or series of choices and a disorder. I do not necessarily think evil of these people but I think in general it is”evil” I just think they are mentally confused and in a bad place likely emotionally too. We have a society that now accepts these things as “normal” but you are right it’s not like this is a normal part of humanity or genetics it’s an alteration (surgically and or cosmetically) its a perversion of manhood and it’s being “accepted” in our culture. I think just like any perversion or fetish or “lifestyle choice” it can become a powerful trap for these people and can have very negative consequences. We do not need to be teaching children in school about this crap it that’s just my opinion. It’s just a doorway for corruption of their minds. It’s not “normal” at all. Kids are easily influenced and I think it’s sad that they are bringing this crap to our public schools to introduce children to this crap as if it’s supposed to be a good thing. Sorry getting sidetracked yes this is a sick perversion and I picked up the fetish for a while. One step at a time walk away from this form of porn and it will lose its grip.
It is a shame what our world is turning in to. I'm going to go off topic here. It all starts with the world elite and the secret government. These people are sick and perverted and I despise them above everyone because they're the ones promoting stuff like LGBT and pedophilia. There's a reason the bible condemns this stuff, not only is this blasphemy, but it also destroys our humanity. I know there's people out there that don't believe in this stuff because they are atheists or of different religions that worship different gods, but all I have to say is that God is real. He spoke to me before and in times of hardship when I prayed he made miracles happen. Each time I go to church I have this feeling of lightness, sort of out of the body experience. I don't know if anybody experienced the same thing, but after I can breath easier and it feels as if all the negative has left my body.
I have differences and i kind of change my opinion on hating transgendered people, i disagree with them and rather instead of hating them as people i hate their ideas of normalizing their mental illnesses. God Created us as man and women nothing else! and even if you are an atheist you can still agree that people were made only man and women and even mental deficiency's wont change that. It's like a heroin addict saying being a heroin addict is normal.. know what i mean? also good luck on your journey, May god guide you!
I cant reply you at all, what my experiences have learnt to me is that if you want to have a normal, health sexuality dont exist sortcuts. It is hard, these "fetishes" are using the same brain road that porn use, not the new brain road that you have to build if you stop PMO. It is hard but is the only way to recovery, to take your life again. I recomend you have a conversation with yourself and decide if you really want get rid of PMO or not. What I see from your writting is not. Search all the information from nofap webside and learn how PMO works in your brain and why it is drug and why it is so hard. Learn how porn is taking your life and will destroy all you love. Then maybe you will take the right track.
