Adult children of alcoholics and sex addiction

Yes. My father used to go on 1-2 week long binges until he almost died.

 

I wouldn't say just only sex addict. Any kind of addiction has a higher chance to develope if you had a hard time growing up.

You are right.

 

To answer both questions--yes.

Sexuality was a way of getting love and affirmation that didn't feel safe for me to get as a kid. Collapsing love, sex, and worthiness was the result; if a woman gave me her body that meant she loved me and my self-worth was increased accordingly. So I was desperate to avoid being alone, and thus without worth.

Because self-worthiness was an issue, I did't feel "worthy" to choose the women I slept with; I accepted the ones who came my way. Generally, those were other unhealthy people with sexual trauma. Hyper-sexual relationships with a lot of unhealthy drama was the usual result. Watching porn with increasing frequency was a natural progression from the hyper-sexuality of my world. Ultimately that lead me here.

Now that I'm an adult and can see with some perspective, I see that being an ACA is the single biggest factor behind my addiction issues around sex and love.

 

I can really relate to this. I'm the product of a very abusive home as well and I don't ever want kids either...I don't even know what a healthy family would look like.

 

Wow...my mother was/is an alcoholic....this is a huge revelation to me.

 

I just had the same thought as you.

 

My dad was/is an alcoholic as well. I totally used MO to escape the hell he put me and my mom through for my entire childhood. It was the coping mechanism/escape/most reliable relationship I had for a long, long, long time.