Are you in porn final stage?

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Interesting list. The rapist one is oddly out of place in my opinion.

People who rape are not porn addicts. Or I should say PMO addicts don’t progress to rape, or other similar violating acts such as moleststion etc... Those people have some type of mental disorders. Same with the psycho one.

But as for the others on the list, I meet those requirements. So I think I made it to the “final stage”

 

I think you are right. I believe the patterns of human dominance laid out in the transactional analyses books can also be applied to several types of sexual pleasure. The logic being that some people really get their dopamine shot when they are either sexually sadistic, dominant or submissive.

 

I’ve been dominate, submissive, Sadistic, and everything in between within my sexual exploration. All of it was consensual though, even slave/rape fantasy.

True rape happens from people who are sick. I would personally never hurt a fly, but my PMO fantasy has gone pretty deep. So I feel that I’m probably at the top of the PMO food chain when it comes to sickness, and am happy I’ve had the reprieve from it for this long. Cuz I needed it, or I would have gone insane.

 

This is what i mean with transactional analyses by the way :




Since it is deeply encoded in human behaviour and the way in how we interact with the world, i truely believe some people get their 'high' when being in one of the ego states on a very sexual level.

 

I hired a lot of escorts, but it's better i don't think about that because just thinking about it it's still a super strong trigger for me.

 

No, I didn't go so deep...

 

This final stage of porn that you listed is what caused my 5 year relationship to end (beside #3 on the list). Ive already been eaten. Its a very dark path. Waking up to regret, guilt and shame is a never ending nightmare. I destroyed my partner, myself and the relationship. Never learn a lesson from regret. So much pain.... ive experience all of that on the list and was trying to live in a disgusting fantasy. And now in reality with the pain and suffering, I entered to another deeper darker place; regret, guilt and shame. Hard to coupe and grasp things on how each and everyday is like without my partnerandcrime. My soul is so damaged and when she left, a part of me left too.

A year later and im still suffering in tears. Theres nothing wrong with this world but i choose to make it a cold world. I dont want porn in my life because it lead me to two suicide attempts, but why do i choose to continue to watch porn. I try stopping and then i fail. Its like i know the answer to happiness but i choose to live in this dark place.

Final stages of porn, funny on how i saw this post. I read many post but not like this one that was the closest to me. If you walked that path then i feel your pain.

Yesterday is a fantasy so its the past in which we can never change. Today is reality so what we do now in the momment is what matters.

 

Porn industry is a real threat to morality and humanity. I think even things like romantic porn which might be found 'not bad', could easily ruin a good relationship. And I am ashamed of myself why I didn't realize this sooner so now I wouldn't need to struggle quiting it.

 

Rape is a much more complicated issue than simply porn addiction. I feel that the placings are a bit flawed, I personally feel rape is a worse path than prostitution, but pornography alone does not have as much power as how we use it, it's not a physical substance. Many potential heroes, legends and successful people have some sort of addiction they're dealing with. I'd even say that the common softcore-to-hardcore-to-weird argument doesn't always stand true either, human preference goes a long way. So I'd personally refer to the degree that pornography affects your life directly or indirectly, and that the final stage is when you simply can't live the normal life you want and have zero self control.

 

It’s all possible. I was basing my comments on what my therapist told me about people who rape or molest etc... she said that having stimuli association to fantasy is different than actually willing to engage in those acts in real life.

But of course anything is possible and I’m no expert.

 

The past is now a fantasy of hoping and wishing for her to come back but the sad truth of selfish acts will not be forgiven. Wasted times that can not go back of 5 years. The pain of someone that died is what how i felt when she left. One day they are right by you and the next day gone. One day sleeping right by you and then now alone, sleeping by yourself. Memories, thoughts and reminiscing about the past that shed tears. I remember crying at least 5 days out of the week for 9 months straight minimum. Its been over a year and tears still drip but not as much and often as it was before. I dont over exaggerate on how much i cried because i never in my life cried so much. The worst days was when i cried after waking up, cried in the shower and cried before sleeping. Another harsh thing is when i see her in my dreams and everytime i am crying in my dream and physically crying in real life. Wasted times and can never go back so i wake up in shame, guilt, and regret every single second, minute, hour, week, month and years that go by without her. I took her for granted, i took the relationship for granted, i took time for granted.

Dont feel bad for me because remember I ruined my own relationship. I decided to make poor decisions and where i am now in life is the outcome. All i know from experience is that porn can lead someone to escort. Remember this in life, never learn a lesson from regret.

When i lost her, in the same year i lost my job, i lost a lot of money, my car broke down and i didnt have enough money to fix anything, man i couldnt even pay for insurance anymore. I couldnt even pay rent. 26 years old and spiraling down. For a whole year from the break up, i only went out and socialized 9 times out of the year. Locked myself in the room where i once shared 5 years of memories with. I thought to myself for many hours and days. The constant thought of her name and constant replays of past times. So many fucking tears been shed. That shame, guilt and regret.

What did i do to avoid constantly thinking about her? I played games and my porn habbit came back and increased like crazy. Everyday life was cry waking up, cry in the shower, play games, watch porn, jerk off, and cry before sleeping. The only time i didnt think of her name was when i was playing games and watching porn. Sadly that is not productive and only made things worse. Suicide was running through my mind so many times.

I am not the same as i was two years ago when i had to tell her the truth. I am not the same as i was over a year ago when she left. People change everyday. The past is now a fantasy and so when in reality of living in the moment is much more important. What we do now is what matters. I wish i could i tell myself that, i no longer watch porn anymore. Sadly ive succeeded and failed.

Never learn a lesson from regrets.

 

I was watching a lot of rape porn. It was at a point where I was considering it with a woman I was lusting after at the gym.

At that point I decided I need to get away from this crap and went to counseling.

I’m 100% convinced that violent porn can lead men into committing violent acts against women. It won’t happen to all men but it can happen to some.

I think some men think this type of statement is all inclusive so they shoot down the statement. I’m not making an all inclusive statement.

It’s been reported many times that there have been rapists that had a considerable porn collection including rape porn.

Not all rapists are porn addicts but some are. Not all porn addicted will become rapists but some will.

Either way, I think getting away from porn will prevent us from slipping into some very ugly behaviors.

 

The stories about escorts really hit home. I lost my girlfriend of 4 years because of my porn addiction and she found messages of me organizing an escort. I backed out in the end and didn't go but i almost did. Porn definitely escalates, its a blackhole and one i hope to get out of.