Blue balls, congestion/pain and sexual activity during reboot?

Do any of you guys experience pain during streaks of nofap down there?

Like after I wake up with strong morning wood or I just get a random boner throughout the day without stimulus, I can sometimes experience pain or what feels like congestion down there. It’s mild. Not extreme and goes away after an hour or two, but it is uncomfortable.

I’m dating someone also and during times when we don’t do anything sexual, I just cuddle with her, I experience pretty painful blue ball pain/congestion and the pain is the same as what I experience as I stated above but more intense. Sometimes it’s bad enough to where after she leaves, I would rub one out in the shower ( thinking of her only) to relieve the pain. I can’t be certain that the shower faps are not hindering my progress, but I don’t believe they are. It would be a shame if I must stop them to ease the blue ball pain but if it must be done I will do it. I only do those very occasionally tho, as it’s rare we’d be intimate enough for me to go through the blue balls without us being sexual in the first place.
I’d really hate to also wonder if being sexual with her during my recovery is bad too lol.

Have any of you guys experienced this??
Also as a PS, my recovery/ past porn addiction isn’t as severe or bad enough to where I can’t perform with her, as I do. But there still is some minor to moderate sexual damage left that I need to recover from by abstaining from PMO. Like my boners with her are only 60 - 80% and it takes me awhile to cum. Over 30 minutes usually which is a blessing to her i guess lol