Bored easily?

Hi people, today I wanna talk about boredom. People around here talk about starting new things to keep our mind occupied and not get sucked into the circle of boredom and relapse. A small bug if may call is present which is that our brain has got a kind of priority mechanism. So basically if you are hungry, you will leave everything aside and first get some food. In addicts, before everything, the brain put up the dopamine. And specifically as for fapstronauts dopamine is so accessible, we don't really care about doing anything. Why?

BECAUSE boredom and this prioritising mechanism are connected. When do you get bored? when you feel that you may have something more important to do rather than the stuff you are already doing. Whatever you are currently doing feels mundane.

So how do we enjoy what we do. Cause I have a feeling that all addicts get bored very easily. ( Please acknowledge if you feel so too by a like or a comment. ) SO boredom is an inevitable problem. If we keep getting bored, we start relapsing and the rest is repeated history.

The answer is in motivation. Particularly ask yourself what drives you to do something. Let's take the example of masturbation. What motivates you? Few hours of distorted reality dream and a few seconds of ecstasy. Now lets take the example of Programming. What motivates you? There may come a time when you become god in programming. There may be a time when you may earn money enough to buy whatever you want. So if there is a lot of "Maybe"s its not good. You are gonna get bored of it. Next is that you have to do it as you in a CS major. This one is an even worse source of motivation.

Now lets talk about "pure" motivation. Such a motivation will come once you identify yourself with the skill. How do legends get created? Once upon a time they had this idea that I am good at singing or dancing or playing football. What they did was that they believed in it. Believed that they are already in a better place doing what they like. Going elsewhere that is doing something else will jeopardise their position.
Now that is pure motivation.

Also that's why abstinence is difficult. You do not believe that you are safe and becoming better every time you choose not to watch porn, not to look at that hot girl on the street, not to waste your time on facebook, whatsapp and instagram. Accept the fact that as men we may be wired to categorise women based on how big her assets are or how curvy her figure is but to decide to turn that off or to wank off is our decision.

So my friends the summary is that you are already safe and sound. Like inherently in a position of safety and freedom. Whatever you have to do in life, it will definitively be harder than wanking off to a couple of random pixelated images. I wont tell you to live with it. Get some "pure" motivation.

 

Really happy to meet you. All the best brother.

 

Exactly the same problem I am facing. Interested in CS got civil.
One thing is that everyone is fucked up in life in something. Like something is wrong. I have read the stories many successful people and everyone at some point had to face a situation where they said that they don't want this. But they took it as a challenge to their ultimate goal. Like if I do what has been forced on me to do, I can do anything. So keep it in mind that if you push through law and nofap, you will get a lot of confidence and after that life is easy. One thing is that everything balances in time. So if you abstain and get good grades, the future will definitely change for the better. Now once you are settled in life, you can start pursuing your interest.
In the end, I would just say that keep in mind that abstinence and studies are making you better. These are the things that will protect you. These are your shield. Do not throw them away.