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Can't determine whether or not hyperfocusing on NoFap is beneficial

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by CoffeeAndKhoresht, Apr 21, 2016.

  1. CoffeeAndKhoresht

    CoffeeAndKhoresht New Fapstronaut

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    Hey everyone,

    So I've been on this journey for the last four years. Still haven't hit my 90 days yet, however the last 2-3 years have mainly consisted of many re-occurring two month streaks. I would usually count how many days that would pass by, and when I hit the two month mark, I would get really excited about my accomplishment yet very nervous about the possibility of slipping. This would get counter-productive, resulting in a self-fulfilling prophecy.

    I recently had a six-week on-and-off period of recurrent relapsing and binge watching. After the first relapse, it felt as though there was no point to try anymore, and since I was going through relationship troubles at the time (we broke up a month ago) and since I already felt like shit due to severe dopamine drainage, it was a fertile breeding ground for me to slip again and again.

    Right now, I'm back in NoFap mode. I think I've been on it for 10 days or so more or less, but I honestly can't remember anymore. This high powered energy that I'm feeling, which is emanating from my groin (if feels like) and coursing through my body, is reminding me how badly I need to stay on this. Right now, instead of treating these superpowers as something offered by NoFap, I consciously consider them a part of me. I treat them as an integral part of my identity that I've ALWAYS had since I was a child. Yet, like any drug, I consider fapping a way to drain me from something that is so necessary to my sanity and health. I own it and treat it as part of my core.

    Now, I don't ever want to ejaculate again unless I'm sleeping with someone or if it's a nocturnal emission. In the past, I felt that my best streaks were when I forgot that pictures of naked people on the internet was something that existed in this world. But, I need to maintain NoFap for the rest of my life. What is the best approach to consider NoFap? Treating it as a way to conquer an addiction and think about it all the time like anyone in recovery for alcoholism or drug abuse would? Or, make sure you DON'T think about it but focus on how these superhuman strength would help you succeed over the rest of your life? What's been most successful to you? And also, if any of you every quit an addiction to another substance, what was the recovery process for that like?
     
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  2. Awakening123

    Awakening123 Fapstronaut

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    Since you have gone several 2 month streaks, you the best answer. I feel like the first 30 days are the hardest and then it gets easier with a tough day here and there.

    It may be that you are expecting nofap as something that will solve all problems in your life and make you feel those superpowers everyday but that can be counterproductive. The best way for me is to incorporate positive things in my life that matters to me and put all my energy and focus into them so that I don't need to think about fapping or watching porn again.

    If you don't do something or have anything meaningful in your life chances are high to fall back into the addiction cycle. So ask yourself what do you want in life and how you gonna get it. It could be anything but has to be important to you and invest your time and energy into that and you will never think about porn again. Good luck.
     
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