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can't get it up for her

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by m.b.11, Jan 12, 2020.

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  1. Jan 12, 2020 #1
    m.b.11

    m.b.11 New Fapstronaut

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    I'm 20 and been masturbating to porn daily (sometimes 2-4 times) since the age of 13. I never would've thought that porn will become the reason for my non existing shitty sex life. I only had "sex" once and I didn't came and had a hard time keeping it hard enough to perform. Which was weird because moments before the sex I had a rock hard boner and thought that I would cum immediately after she touched my dick. So that left me really confused. After that incident I had a girlfriend and was so horny everytime I was next to her but when it was about to happen I didn't got it up. That was the most embarrassing moment in my entire life, just messes with your image of you as a "manly" person. Then single again, I was watching a lot of porn. To the point where i started to get hard by weird things. Dicks, transwomen, and hardcore anal stuff just disgusting thinking about it. I never ever had just a little gay thought or anything close in my life I'm a 100% sure that I'm not gay. That's why it really depressed me. I started to force myself to watch gay porn to prove myself that I'm not gay. I did this like 3 times everytime I would get hard but grossed out at the same time it was just confusing. Anyways sorry that's way to long to read my bad just feel like this makes me feel a bit better .
    Well now I'm clean for only a week. I've tried so many times before but always relapsed. Now I can already feel a difference I'm soooo much hornier every girl I see I just want to fuck the shit out of her . The gay OCD thoughts are mostly gone now I can not understand how this weird porn stuff even arroused me. I have so much more energy and motivation to see girls in real life. Before I used to prefer porn. But now the thing I want the most is female contact in real life it's crazy never thought 7 days without porn would make such a different. Well I'm still masturbating everyday but only to my fantasies (imagining me and girls I know in real life not porn or anything else) and it's crazy how horny and hard it gets me. I'm so confident right now that I would immediately get a hard useful boner in front of a beautiful natural girl. I'm never watching porn again I feel like I missed the last 6 years of my life.
    Aight imma see how this turns out in a few weeks. and by the way stopping masturbating is bullshit it's the best thing you can do. it lets you think clean and helps you to avoid watching porn. it helps your brain to connect sex with normal daily thoughts again and not with this dopamine drug called porn.
    imma head out (sry for my bad English I'm from germany)
     
    m.b.11, Jan 12, 2020
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  2. Jan 12, 2020 #2
    Delta Tango

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    My friend, I don't mean to criticise your journey, but it's not necessarily correct to say that stopping masturbating is bullshit. Masturbating also tricks the mind into not recognizing real contact with women as the natural, preferred stimulus. Spend some time reading the stories of other people here and you will see that this is so. It wouldn't hurt to read up about how addiction and in particular our addiction works. Good luck on your journey though. Stay strong.
     
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  3. Jan 12, 2020 #3
    mac95

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    Unfortunately, Delta have right buddy ...
    Masturbating also tricks the mind and you will this find out only then, when you're stop masturbating, and it's the hardest part of this process - 1'st stop watching porno and then stop fap.
    Perhaps, this fight will be the most difficult thing you will have to face in your life, seriously sometimes it's f**king like hell but it's really can changed your life, and this is the only way to achive a goal.
    Stay strong, and if you fall don't give up !
     
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  4. Jan 16, 2020 #4
    m.b.11

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    I'm sure masturbating to much is not healthy either but at least like once a week its healthy for your body in general and the less you masturbate the hornier you will get and the more tempted you will be to return to porn
    I mean it works for me perfectly
     
    m.b.11, Jan 16, 2020
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  5. Jan 16, 2020 #5
    m.b.11

    m.b.11 New Fapstronaut

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    nah bro masturbating every now and then has so many health benefits and your testosterone level decreases after 7 days so at least jerk off once a week to avoid a shitty flatline
     
    m.b.11, Jan 16, 2020
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  6. Jan 16, 2020 #6
    Delta Tango

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    Whatever works for you, my friend. For the vast majority of us who have been in this thing for 30 years or more, we've tried that and it doesn't work. For some people that's a slippery slope that leads to a collapse of everything they've worked for.
     
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  7. Jan 20, 2020 #7
    Let The Good Times Roll

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    Your thread stood out to me because well I’ve experienced some of the same difficulties. I started watching porn at 12, 20 now. Porn really messed with my mind. I got into a relationship and experienced the same results as you, had trouble keeping it up for anything penetrative, however I could keep it up for oral and hand jobs most of the time (weird, yes). Also I’ve had a weird transwoman thing too. Except I’m ashamed to say that became a big part of my porn consumption for awhile. Never really thought myself to be gay. But I guess I’m a bit bi in that regard? Even though the idea disgusts me I found it arousing. But since I have been abstaining from porn I’ve noticed my urge for that kind of stuff has lightened. So know you’re not the only one with those specific problems.

    I’ve relapsed 3 times so far, I. Taking the hard reboot route. Even though I’ve relapsed I still feel some progress being made. Just know as long as you are actively trying no progress is completely lost.
     
    Let The Good Times Roll, Jan 20, 2020
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