Hello guys , I have been consuming porn since 5 years . Thought of quitting it several times but ultimately failed every time . Almost every time on the 2nd day or the 3rd day the cravings get so much I just can't control myself I feel so bad about myself now Guys I need advice on how to control cravings any habits I can develop to minimise cravings and I have been hearing about transmutation of sexual energy. I would be indebted to you if you could provide some methods on how to transmutate sexual energy
@Dhruva Sharma congratulation , ur already initiated steps to quite this bad addiction. ur sharing ur thoughts is also good thing.
First of all you must be one of those lucky ones who can easily abstain from looking at porn .Congos in that , But from what ive read most aren't . The sex drive is just too much when you feel like it will become less only when you watch porn . Believe me I've tried several things but nothing worked bro. That's why I finally thought of getting help from the community. Anyway thanks for replying bro
@Dhruva Sharma 1. balanced diet . fruits r essential , avoid junk/street food. no carbonated drinks. 2. excersice. mainly uppar body excerisce . search on google about uppar body excersize. uppar body excersize helps me a lot. pull ups,push ups etc 3. meditation and breathing excersize. atleast for 2minutes. 4. avoid loud music/tv/ mobile mostly. 5. sharing ur thoughts on regular basis with nofap members or sending two words of appreciation to others helps a lot. 6. donot put much stress on self about passing and failing. be a part of journey . understand the journey. this r few things....u can look into. nofap is great community. i m sure, u r going to get lots of great things here.
I would suggest, let's solve this problem of yours by brute force. What do you think of giving up means which make pornographic materials available to you? I mean, give up your smart phone - use a basic one, use public internet, delete all files, brake all CDs i.e., make it absolutely impossible for yourself to get porn for few days. Can you do that?
Thanks for replying Im a techie guy so I've used hosts file to block porn on my mobile Basically I can't open a porn site on my mobile even with a VPN Then coming to my laptop I've used open DNS on my home WiFi to block out all pornography But the problem comes when I move to college where I live in hostel The internet has restrictions but I can get past them pretty easily And also that I live in a single room and I'm mostly alone in my room Then the problem starts With nothing to do my mind often shifts to porn Even after putting such restrictions I've realised ultimately that it's just upto me whether I watch it or not Outside factors will always be outside And I'm a student bro It's impossible for me to live without a smartphone because my project revolves around Android app development and for exams I mostly rely on PDF so it's not possible for me to use a normal phone And coming to laptop I have to complete my project there itself so need it too I have literally buried myself with work but I complete everything quickly and then watch porn ... I just can't believe myself how I do it too
I kind of suspected it that you must have a lot of alone time. Alone, it's indeed very hard, especially when one repeatedly failed himself. Alone most of us are that spider who gets tangled in its own web or a Black Hole. You must have some means of self monitoring. I suggest an accountability partner. If you have a friend (or a group of friends) who aspire for similar goals you can help one another very much. Trust me this "outside factor" we benefit you.
Bro... I am also same like you. I have also lot of work with Android, Database and Cloud. But, Still I'm very aware of the usage of Internet. I would always put my mobile away in public room like kitchen or living room. I have also OpenDNS in laptop which keeps me away from minor urges. But, My main problem is mobile as I was used to watch P in mobile. So, I have been keeping in other room. I believe that will power is very important here. Those porn blocker can help in a limited manner, but ultimate success depends on your will power and confidence in your self.
Thanks a lot for your advice I have an accountability partner. We both are facing similar failures though We just decided to go 90 days hard mode no matter what Thanks for replying, it means a lot
Welcome. I'm glad that I was able to help. One last suggestion though, please start with small goals (7, 14, 21 days). Achieving small targets would boost your confidence and would produce a sense of pride. Further if all things go as planned, you can always stretch your streak.