Can't sleep during reboot, leads to relapse

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by dugong89, Dec 28, 2017.

  1. dugong89

    dugong89 Fapstronaut

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    Hi guys,

    First of all, this is an awesome place, and I thank you all for being part of this.

    Now, my question is about people who have figured out some tricks for rebooting. I have been trying to go off PMO for a little over a year after I found out about NoFap. I have never gone beyond a 4 day streak. I realize that the two, three times I have managed a 4 day streak and have seen the genuine possibility of going further, I haven't been able to because I couldn't sleep at night.

    I guess I PMO before going to bed. Mostly it is to rid myself of anxiety or something like that to escape reality. I am not sure what happens. Even if I am tired when I go to bed, and when I hit the pillow I am sure that I'll make it another day, I just can't sleep. My mind is just buzzing and awake. It is really hard to fight off any thoughts or feelings that may trigger me during that time. Eventually, I just feel like I need to MO, or PMO just to shake off the strange and heavy feeling from my head. I've laid in bed for hours trying to sleep, but I can't. I don't even have an erection, I am not turned on. Because I feel like I have other responsibilities in the morning - getting up on time to go to work, not be drowsy during the day because of lack of sleep - I just give in.

    This problem of not being able to sleep has prevented me from going further than 4 days and has led to relapses. It would be great if anyone who has experienced the same problem can share how they have coped, or if anyone has advice in general, reply on this thread.

    Thanks a ton!
     
  2. malaysiachinese

    malaysiachinese Fapstronaut

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    Have been in the same situation with you.
    I discovered masturbation since 9 years old, has been doing it almost daily till now. However, I did it without looking at porn (in fact, the first time I watched porn was at 18 years old). Now I find that it is difficult to fall asleep without ejaculation, and the urge to masturbate keep getting stronger (even without erection). Anyway, I think it's time to me to stop this habit, and put my limited semen, time and energy for better purpose. After all, I need to control my urge, or I will be controlled by it.
    Here's a suggestion I can give: you can get a book (probably religious book, or boring book) before you sleep. Fill your mind with something until you fall asleep, and do not put attention to PMO and even NoFap. Just read until your eyes close. That's the end of one day. Keep trying and see how many days you can repeat it.
    Do update us on your progress. Cheers!
     
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  3. dugong89

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    Thanks! I have tried that a couple of times. Didn't work for me, I just couldn't go to sleep. After I felt tired and it was hard to keep my eyes open, I put the book down but didn't fall asleep. Anyways, I'll try out different variations to see. Will post my experience here if that situation arises again.
     
  4. malaysiachinese

    malaysiachinese Fapstronaut

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    I guess your body is already ready for sleeping, but your mind resist it. The same thing happen to me. I guess the best way is to press the panic button in this website when you cant control your urge.Eventually you will fall asleep. Or consider to get a AP that can motivate you to achieve your goal.
     
  5. Newdawn930

    Newdawn930 Fapstronaut

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    Have you considered meditation?
    A simple meditation makes me feel relaxed even when I get hit with this brain buzz.
    At first it is hard to keep your mind calm, then it gets better.
     
  6. Mike_July_2017

    Mike_July_2017 Fapstronaut

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    This is normal. It happened to me as well. It is because you are a heavy porn user that you cannot fall asleep until you do porn.
    The only solution is manage to go through a few days without porn, then it gets much easier.

    Also, in this situation, when you do relapse try to watch softcore porn. Do not PMO to memories of heavy weird gross porn. You have a porn overload, but the good thing is it will get weaker if you can manage to keep away from it for a few days.

    Also, got do thing in nature - that seemed to help me. And, as usual, cold showers are the strongest medicine.
     
  7. dugong89

    dugong89 Fapstronaut

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    So, I was on a 6 day streak, the longest I've ever had, then I couldn't sleep. I had an important deadline the next day, and I couldn't afford to stay up all night, so I have in. I really couldn't stand it. It was late at night, and I was working till late. Yes, I had also started looking at instagram photos of girls and stuff, but still. I really wanted to stop. I took 3 cold showers that night, I had even taken some sleeping aids to help me sleep, those didn't help either. I guess the best bet is to exercise a lot, or work a lot to tire myself. During that time I hadn't had good food, had a hang over from New Years. Perhaps that was a big factor. Let's see what happens this week.
     

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