Childhood trauma: Don’t be it’s Bitch

“we are today the sum total of what we've been, ever act , and every deed we makes what we are today good or bad”- Cus D'Amato


Everyone has had a traumatic experience of some kind from child hood, even the kids with loving parents who knew what they where doing. There were times when they did not pay enough attention because the parents had something on their mind or were stressed out. Or they shouted at the kids by mistake. All list of things they could have done by mistake. And lets not forget they are human to, maybe that how they were raised and didn’t know any better, maybe they were not prepared to raise children, or they made a mistake. Even I know there are some problems that I have had that stem from child hood. But they do not hold me prisoner and I don’t blame my parents.


Are there any exceptions to the rule? Yes but they are the exception not the rule. And yes a lot of things that happen in your child hood affect the person you are today. But to use them as an excuse for your depression, anxiety, personality problems, and behavioral problems is a cop out. You are grown men and women who are responsible for yourselves. Not what you parents did or said when you were a kid. Stop blaming them, to be frank it’s fucking childish. You know you problems and have access to the internet, do some research and find out what you need to do to fix yourself.


Every time I failed at something as a child my dad would tell me “so you failed” with a judgmental look and tone. And that fucked with my self-confidence for a very long time but I eventually let it go and replaced the negative self-talk with positive self-talk.

Using positive affirmations. And for a period of time I used it as fuel to try to succeed but I let that go because it still meant that I was being held prisoner by my child hood. Nor do I hold it against him either I know why the way he is, I understand him better. Yes it fucked many other aspects of my life in the past. But that’s just it: tis the past.


There are many successful people who had fucked up child hood, Jim Carrey started telling jokes to cheer up his dying mother. And he went on to being one of the funniest comedians of his generation not to mention the movies. In fact many of my favorite stand up comics had fucked-up child hoods but they used that pain to create art that many people enjoy. Arnold Schwarzenegger used the negativity from his dad to become successful, Mr. Universe, movie star, Governor of State in another country. Some of your favorite musicians, poets, philosopher, painters, actors, entrepreneurs, inventors, etc. had fucked up child hood. But some of them channeled their pain to create while others used it as fuel to achieve what they achieved. So what are you going to do with that pain? Make excuse, feel sorry for yourself, blame, or doing something about it.


I used positive affirmation to change my victim mentality, to look at the positive instead of the negative, to get back up after fairer, deal with most of my anger, and let go some of my trauma. You can do the same. If you don’t believe that you can achieve things despite of those traumas then look at successful people you look up to. I have told you my example, that of others, and given you a tool to use. So tell me what you choice to do, use the pain or be kept prisoner by it? Tell me your thoughts down below.​

 

Thank you for sharing. Its good to see people not use their past as excuse to limit their themselves. But instead as motivation. How has your dad reacted since you started your training?

 

"There are very few new things in this world, very few. That's why people that are young, if they're smart, try to profit from the experience of an older guy so they won't have to go through all the pain and suffering. But a certain amount of pain and suffer is good, because it makes a person think they've learned." ~ Cus D'Amato
Thats a quote from Mike Tyson's trainer. Why dont you ask him what would help? he might have some useful advice, you never know.