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Day 135 NO PMO -> 136 no PM

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Miss Winnie, Jul 2, 2018.

  1. Miss Winnie

    Miss Winnie Fapstronaut

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    Update & Benefits
    Life has never been so free, like REALLY free.
    • Not feeling frequent urges & need to satisfy them
    • WAY more confidence in just the way I carry myself ~ no air/vibe/aura of desperation or overwhelming weakness
    • LESS fantasizing - I used to do it nearly all the time & now it’s rare & I feel better & more productive not having that on my mind
    Why did I do this?
    • For me to be closer to the best version of myself
    • I was inspired by people like myself working through this challenge
    • For my relationship, working on our bond & connection. I didn’t want to feel disconnected or unsatisfied & resort to pleasing myself later.
    Relationship/change in counter setting
    • Because I’m in a relationship & have now just O’d w partner, I am changing my setting. However, I do want to note that I was ready for this :) I chose not to O or come close to O before because I knew it could make me want it more immediately (because of strong old habits, wiring), so the urge to M would be srronger then. BUT, by DAY 100 or so, I no longer (maybe 1% of time) felt the urge to M. I WAS FREE THEN, from my desire to immediately satisfy urges, from instant pleasure.

    Why not give in Day 101?
    • ‘Cause I made it this far & I don’t want to M again just because. I realized I didn’t need this & personally, I want to share my sexual experiences with my partner. And when it feels right, there ya go.
    Guys, YOU CAN DO THIS. You may think this is it & you have to accept this part of yourself that you don’t like, but you can change!!! Accept that we are sexual beings, but know that you can overcome addiction or anything you feel is controlling you. You are meant to live free from these things & I can guarantee you that it’s worth it. Rooting for everyone here :)
     
  2. Foxislander

    Foxislander Fapstronaut

    Hi there I'm on day 102 married for 33 years we're doing this for a marital reboot and I'm willing to go as far as we need to me and my wife have signs of absence contract for 275 days I'm letting either her choose or God decide if we resume our sex and right now I'm kind of okay without it and I think she is too she doesn't seem like she's got any interest in sex at all she lets me cuddle with her at night course I get a boner and then I stopped and I have the control to be able to do that without any problems my concern is I don't think she is interested in sex I am and always have been and like you said we are sexual beings I really would like to hear your opinion do I need to take this as far as it needs to go or do we go into a sexless marriage because she has really no interest in sex she's only had urges maybe once or twice in the last hundred two days I'm going to honor whatever she wants to do and I'm really kind of okay with it just wondering what some options might be I don't want to masturbate and I don't never will never look at porn again I'm looking at semen retention I'm looking at ways to orgasm without ejaculation?? Do you have any suggestions cuz you took and taken it to distance
     
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  3. Miss Winnie

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    Ooh to be honest, I don’t think I have all the answers for you. But I would definitely say honor the contract. You and your wife had agreed to this.

    But after that, definitely talk about it & how important sex is to each other, perhaps compromise.

    And in regards to how far to go, measure your own progress. If sex or p or anything is on your mind a lot still, may not be good time to try something and chase after it.
     
  4. Foxislander

    Foxislander Fapstronaut

    So I really want an honest answer honor the contract all the way to 275 days? That would be another hundred and seventy days I'm going by a win here that you're going to say yes. But I need you to understand some background first I'm the one that kept on adding on the extensions because she thinks I put a time limit on it that I want to break it beforehand that's not the case I extended it to make sure that she is going to be ready for it I'm ready for it some more background I came off of ADHD meds do the what I'm doing right now. And antidepressants, or growth has been phenomenal with intimacy I do have a tendency to harp on the subject of sex more often than I should which I found out last night she thinks I'm pressuring her when I'm talking to her about that. We're not going through any therapy right now so we're just doing this on her own so I'm valuing it to an opinion of a female and I could use some females to help me get through this that have gone through it also. I love my wife ever been married 33 years prior to 105 days ago we were having sex 3 to 5 times a week and I have ject to find her for years and didn't realize it until we initially went to therapy got the idea that we needed help and went on her own because of the expense and spiritual drive. We both gotten a lot closer to God and a relationship with Jesus and I know I have the fortitude to follow through so it can there's the background so now give me an answer and I'm trying to get another person's input on this also preferably another female any suggestions so again if you could give me some help I appreciate your advice is invaluable
     
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  5. Foxislander

    Foxislander Fapstronaut

    Thanks I think
     
  6. Miss Winnie

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    Day 158 without PM, 2 weeks without O

    • Doing well, but last night I had a dream I MO’d
    • In my dream, I was like hmm I’ve gone long enough without it & one time can’t mess it up & I don’t think I’d feel down about it & it felt good IN THE DREAM
    • Woke up & am honestly relieved I didn’t; I’ve come this far & I don’t want to look back.
     
  7. hydroxide

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    So glad you've pushed yourself to a better place now! You're free, be happy!
     

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