At about 40 days now and kind’ve feeling the same as I did with PMO. When the urges come the apathy turns into “Why not enjoy myself? It makes no difference. What’s a good way to stay motivated in times of apathy?
Some will disagree with this but you are your own proof, so take from this what you will.. You aren't feeling any improvements because there's nothing more to gain after 30/40 days apart from freedom if you were heavily addicted. You have made it this far which means you are strong enough to abstain from it if you choose to do so. I'm not saying go back to pmo, but if you could do it one time and not become hooked again... is it really so wrong if you are single? Throughout my journey I've realized that edging and binge watching are the 2 main culprits of porn related depression, PIED etc. Another is the type of content you watch as you can allow yourself to be put off normal sex with just one woman. Basically anything unrealistic is going to be bad for you in the long run. I've learned that self control and having the ability to say no to things is more important than just abstaining from porn. This is just my opinion so don't take it as fact, the truth is none of the opinions on here class as fact as this hasn't really been documented. We are the test subject, unfortunately.
You’re right we really are the cutting edge, the head of the curve. Thanks for your advice and I think what counts as failure is different for different people’s journeys.
why would you sugest something like tgat to him, knowing that most of us here cant "simply jerk it ond single time"? i agree with the part about self control, but if its that easy, why are you yourself still here Lee? also, quitting a habbit for a single month isnt really a long time. @gliderpilot, have you made any significant changes in your day to day life besides no pmo? because nothing will happen if you simply dont pmo, its about all the other things that are part of the nofap lifestyle. not pmoing wont improve you, but ridding yourself of all the similar unhealthy habbits, and adapting new healthy ones will
Why would anyone want to go back to porn? I mean actually want to, as opposed to just giving in to compulsive behaviour? I really don't understand the idea of quitting for a certain amount of time then voluntarily walking back into hell. Surely that's just the addiction talking.
Read his post again. He has completed his goal. Also read what I said again. You obviously aren't getting it.
The guy has achieved what he set out to do, there's no more 'benefits' after that and superpowers don't exist. What he needs to do is give himself a pat on the back for quitting porn and get on with his life.
he didnt say what his goals at the beginning were, and doesnt mention achieving them, but is ssking for advice on how to keep going through apathy. there are no superpower to be gained, its about turning your life around and getting your shit together (atleast for most guys here). just because it looks like theres nothing more there to achieve atm, doesnt mean theres nothing new down the road. furthermore, quitting smoking for 30 days isnt quitting smoking. its quitting smoking for a single month.
It's also about shedding the victim mentality and taking responsibility for your actions. Technically porn isn't to blame, it's us being weak minded and allowing ourselves to become enslaved by it.
I believe the so-called "apathy"is the addiction finding a way to get you to give up. In times like these it's good to get a bit fired up and remember the kind of guy you want to be. Our determination always goes to sleep when we need it most.
