Some of you may not know, but I love watching romantic / comedy movies nowadays over netflix. I dont have a gf, but watching them gives me a little in-deph content to relate to when facing a relationship, and the conflicts that may rise from it. The problem is that, some of the things portraied in such movies are there only as a meam of entertainment, but for us PA's some of those jokes can be really trigging. Nowadays everytime sex is shown in this movies I simply find it stupid. Yesterday I watched this movie (if you may get triggered from Cameron Diaz I dont recommend clicking it), and Its really bad... it tries to normalize the use of pornography by parents and casual families. Sometimes I feel Holywood just uses sex as a watch bait, its the only thing that they think about, and that doesnt help. I'd like to know how you guys deal with this kind of context, even in movies that have a few sexual scenes or jokes, and what we can do to change that.
I think that the portrayal of sex in movies and TV shows is dumb and out of control. I know how you feel in terms of rom coms, the sex jokes are really dumb and unnecessary. I guess that they feel as though if they don't put something sexual in it, then persons won't watch. Like seriously, I was watching a TV show the other day and I payed attention to the amount of times sexual content whether it be a scene or sexually oriented conversation appeared and it was ridiculous and extremely unnecessary in relation to what the show was supposed to be about. It really disgusted me. The way things are going they might have full blown porn scenes in all types of entertainment media. I don't really watch that much TV shows and movies anymore. I just roll my eyes when I see it. I wish I could offer better advice.
Yes, I feel like that too. Its difficult to conform... if the movie dont progress from that point I simply stop watching.
Yeah ahah If its the classic high school shit or a seth rogen script I can put up with... But when I see a movie with absolute no sexual joke nowadays I clap hands within my livingroom.
Yeah me too. It's getting really disturbing though because now they have subliminal sex jokes in children's TV shows. Really disturbing.
I think they said that one reason that the put sex scenes in the entertainment media is that they need to represent all experiences of life and since sex is a part of life, they must have sex scenes in it, even if it has no bearing on the actual plot of the movie. It's also an agenda, it's no accident that entertainment media has become perverted all of a sudden... The people who run entertainment media obviously want to keep pushing that stuff in the media for whatever bad reason.
They'll keep on doing it forever I think, typical movie/music producer quote is: "Sex Sells" Its just like Star Wars merch... nowadays even my aunt have a darth vader t-shirt, they'll keep pushing sexual content until it becomes status quo/mainstream. It's already happening actually, even miley cyrus got bored of her old "whore" persona... Sex will always be attractive to younger audiences, so its an old formula.
The excuse they come up with is that it potrays the 'love' between the two characters, which is utter bollocks, its just a porno on TV with them just looking at the physical side of everything! Sex isnt love, it can be a side effect of love for sure though!
Interesting article about sex in media: http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/EverybodyHasLotsOfSex
I also think sex is being overused way too much in today's media, especially in comedies. Big Bang Theory could be so good without the stupid sex jokes no nerd ever does, but then again it is by the same guy that made Two and a Half Men. What I wanted to ask you, though, seeing that this is the loneliness forum: Why do you watch movies about love when you're single? I myself try to avoid any type of romantic film/comedy, as they make me rather lonely and sad when they get emotional (due to being single).
Because romantic movies can be quite uplifting if one doesn't compare them to oneself's situation all the time,
I don't. I just find myself getting sad when I'm watching these on my own, and I'm guessing that's the reason to it. Obviously, that's genre-specific. I never have problems with people's love in other genres.
Ahaha good question! Well, I DO feel lonely just like you mentioned sometimes, but love is a human emotion and I like romantic movies. I think you dont need to be in a relationship to watch them as it also can teach you the Goods and Bads of being in a relationship. It also teaches you not to be egocentric and care for the happiness of other besides your own. In the beggining I felt really lonely because I compared a lot with my own situation, but when you make yourself aware of such themes and problems within a relationship, its almost like you're preparing yourself and learning about social situations.
I remember when I watched 500 Days of Summer I got really sad, REALLY sad. It was almost like I identified myself with the guy's situation and felt for him, mainly because I had a similar story that happened with me in my real life. But after I discussed the plot a lot with a few friends and couples and I could see that we had the same opinions on the topic! And I wasnt alone with that feeling. Watching that movie opened my points of views a lot, and it reinforced my values.
I honestly have this problem with a lot of things in todays society, not just movies. It seems like its deemed OK to be overtly sexual to the point I find it obnoxious and crass. Just yesterday I was walking with friends and a very attractive woman walked past, and they all stopped to gawk at her as she did. Meanwhile I'm just there like "come the fuck on guys, dont just stand still in the middle of the bloody path, we have places to go, I know shes hot and all but get a grip". This kind of shit happens so often that I sometimes think I'm the abnormal one, but I dont care, I find overtly sexual behavior to be perverse and not out of prudishness, its just offputting to me.
I agree. It's absolutely ridiculous these days that if you don't want vulgarity and obscenity in movies, tv and other forms of entertainment media and if you don't check a woman out when she's dressed a particular way, you're labeled a prude.
I usually don't watch TV or Netflix because nowadays the sexual content has reached a ridiculous level. This problem is present in all the media and what we can do, if the content is annoying, is just to avoid this content by using filter or just trying to select what stuff is acceptable. This is what i do. If in a film they show the love between two lovers or a man talks about some experience...cool!...but if they present a sort of sex-hungry gorrillas that jump on one to another, close the curtain and let's read a book or do sport! I hate vulgarity, man. In everything!
