Defcon 5 still

I've been in your shoes before. I don't really have any advice about resisting PMO once the big stress hits, but here is some advice for the relationship.

Have a serious talk with her. Don't let it linger and drive you insane even before it happens. Maybe you've read it wrong, and you can strengthen your relationship, but if not, make a clean break. The worst thing is wondering if you're together or not.

 

@handyman ,

@BobDobbs speaks the truth. Also, because you expect that the porn-reaper will be waiting for you around the corner if you break up, DON'T go to that corner. Avoid the porn-reaper!
Time to think about healthy stress-coping mechanisms! Better sleep, B-complex vitamins (good for stress management on the body). Hobbies, talk to other girls, etc.

Was porn a factor in that "fizzle out" scenario? Do you know what's against you?

 

Handyman,
Not the same as being dumped, but as a married man, my sex life sometimes takes a dip. Whether because of work, traveling, kids, stress, etc., I've had times when I went several weeks (even a year a couple of times due to military separation) without sex. At times I would become resentful and want to seek porn as an outlet. I've grown from that, but to your point, don't let the breakup be your excuse for allowing the reaper to relapse you. Find another outlet: read a book, go back to school, pickup a hobby, etc. I don't say this lightly. Hell, I felt like asking the reaper for the lube today. But I got through it. I decided to watch the NBA Game 7 game, and post my thoughts here. Saved me from the reaper. I consider this my Safe House. Find your Safe House.

 

maybe m, with out the p? 1 or 2 times only, just to take steps, rather then everything at once.