Depressed

Stop looking at girls on the internet, start shifting your focus to real life girls instead.

 

Matt last week I was like you in a flat-line, and when I was feeling a little bit better I relapsed in day 20, then i felt with low energy, a little bit sad and with fear. So if you are in a flat-line it seems that you lost the powers/benefits, but trust me, if you relapse it's worse. Now I learnt that a flat-line is a normal phase that you will overcome, and I'm focused to reach day 90. Come on let's do this!

 

I would say you do not have classic depression.
When you PMO you generate a lot of Dopamine and your brain is becoming accustomized to that. So you have to watch more P, more hardcore P, PMO more often per day etc...

It's like an overweight person who has to eat more cake and more candy to feel the same amount of satisfaction and happiness unlike a slim person who only eats cake once in a while.

Because your brain now needs so much dopamine to feel happy every day pleasures don't do it for you. They produce too little dopamine. The depression you are feeling are withdrawal symptoms, caused by your accostumization to PMO.

It very, very probably will go away on it's own with time.
the best you can do ist, work out, go for walks, go jogging, meditate and not fall back into PMO.
Everybody has this depressive state here, however for the major part it probably isn't classic depression caused by other circumstances.

 

Try to accept the depression for what it is. If you never suffered you wouldn't be able to look into yourself and learn something. Nothing is wrong. It is as it is supposed to be and this too will pass.

 

Well, it's a no brainer Matt. STOP edging; spending time looking at hot girls on the internet and fantasising about them!

 

Stop looking at women on the internet. You might not feel better but at least have some dignity.

 

This journey takes a while to figure out, at first I thought my only issue was that I was watching porn, then once I put a streak together of No Porn I realized that I was watching porn to cover up a number of other things issues in my life such as depression and low self-esteem ect. I thought that if I just quit watching porn that my life would magically turn around and in some respects it has, I have much more confidence and meeting new people/women is great but hey there are other issue that can drag me down and I am going to have to chip away at them if I want maintain and grow and believe me I do. I do not want to watch porn, I do not want to tempt myself to watch porn, I was in that trap for too long and it took too much effort to get out of. My suggestion is the same as everyone else's stop tempting yourself , right now it’s MO that you're dealing with, it could be PMO soon and that's a difficult climb to get out of. Good luck

 

Not sure what you mean by this?

Are you saying life was better when you were PMO'ing? If so why are you here? It could be because you know deep down that PMO is ruining your life. NoFap won't cure all your problems. It just gives you more energy and focus to do all the things you have been putting off due to your insecurities.

 

Start shifting your energy on your goals, not girls! Life is great when we live to pursue goals and not girls. Be "addicted" to action, not to a person.

 

Holy s#it you're on a roll, focus on yourself not those energy attention seeking females who think flashing their bits is enough to get everything they want in life...please what else do they have to offer us beside their figures. It makes me angry that a hot women can get what she wants by seducing a male. Men can't do that. We need money, looks, muscles, career, house, car, confidence. What does a woman need? Good looks and half a personality

 

Buy a book Incognito from David Eagleman. It speaks about the subconscious mind and conscious mind what you are aware of and what is hidden from you.

You were depressed even before but you were successfully self-medicating yourself in a such a level that it wasn't shown to you that you are depressed AF. Now that you are trying to heal from porn it comes right in front of your eyes. Let it be, the brain will find different ways on how to deal with these bad feelings. Trust me. Just don't take antidepressants because your brain will not develop its own ways. Stay strong brother. I am on day 41 and I feel depressed as FUCK!!! As never. But I can push, I know my brain has fantastic resources to adapt and make me feel not depressed but it takes time. It will need to create more dopamine receptors and to push me to do some smashing ideas to fulfill my life. We just need to stay strong during this long reboot.

 

We need to always focus on our goals and disconnect from the fact that hot girls can only go out and move the finger and they have 10 guys with Ferrari. It comes from envy and that is a very bad trait which is preventing us from living a fulfilled life. Let those hot girls live their "successful" life and do not put a single thought into their life. Let's concentrate on our goals and gym and money and self-love and discipline. Girls will come in thousands, But be very careful then who you give your heart to. They all want your success. Your success will be that you can be without them.

 

I felt that way before and something that someone said made a lot of sense to me that helped it was this " WHAT ARE YOU DOING FOR YOURSELF" we all can get caught up in wondering what others think and say and how things are in life but how often do we ever PUT OURSELF FIRST do stuff for ourself not for everyone else it could be anything going to bed when you want to, getting up when you want to, going to a movie YOU want to see, buying a book you like ,buying new cloths, dvds , going for a long walk taking up a new hobby etc