Do girls care about the job I do????

Mmmm... it's difficult to speak for all women, even a woman herself, so I'll just say the following:

In many (although not all) cases, the woman relies on either her father or her man for money, so yes, women tend to show an interest (or concern) in what job you have. But if the job of a man completely and solely mattered to her, then you're dealing with a shallow woman in that scenario. (I ain't saying she a gold digger...)

Let her love you for you, not your job. Besides, you're not jobLESS, right? You don't have to be rich or anything to get a girl. Hell, my parents were poor when they got together and they've been married for nearly 20 years.

 

It probably depends on the woman. If they are superficial and care about money, then they might care. Otherwise, any person with average intelligence will understand that what you do for a living doesn't necessarily reflect on your mental capabilities and personality.

 

Yes a woman will judge you on the job you have.

A woman could meet 2 guys. Let’s say she doesn’t know either of them personally. Who do you think she’s gonna wanna date?

The lawyer who makes £100,000+ a year
Or
The Chef who makes £24,000 a year

We all know the answer.

But... if she gets to know both of you personally. The guy who earns less money could win her over. So it’s not all about how much money or what job you do. But it definitely helps your chances if you’re earning more money.

Years ago evolution meant that the woman would pick the strongest male so that her offspring would have a better chance of safety and survival. Well nowadays money is safety.

Natural selection doesn’t work the way it used to.

 

As is always the case with every single version of the "do women _______?" question, the answer is that some of them probably do and some probably dont. Pretty much as simple as that.

 

In the end, the job doesn't matter. You do! That lawyer could be a complete dick! She doesn't want a dick!

A good job looks good on paper but she's not going to keep you for your job. You could be a street sweeper and she could love and adore you for you.

Does the job matter? No, its about other factors of your personality.

 

But that's your reality.

The real reality is that a chef is a cool job and he could cook for her, she's not going to date based on job, she will date and marry on other factors. That does not mean to say there aren't gold diggers or women with the wrong values, but heres the important point,, these relationships don't last, they're based on superficial values, haha!

 

In 5 years yes, but not now.

 

Quick story, I was sitting at the bar yesterday when these two young ladies came in and sat a few seats down from me. One of girls proceeded to go on and on about her ex that she'd just broken up with after a three year relationship. I wasn't really trying to eavesdrop but she was quite the chatterbox and the place was practically empty so I couldn't help but to overhear. Anyways, from what I heard, this guy didn't even have a job and she had been providing a roof over his head and paying for his cell phone for most of the time. So he basically sounded like a first class loser who had managed to date what seemed like an attractive girl with a head on her shoulders. I've seen these types of scenarios time and time again and I'm always bewildered. So if you're wondering if what you do for a living is good enough, I'd say having a job in the first place is a good start. Helps to be able to pay your own cell phone bill as well.

 

Here's a question nobody's asking: Who gives a fuck what they think? What if that girl you're impressing w your job doesn't have one? First do you like your own situation then ask do you fuck w said girl(s) jobs and situation

 

I'll go ahead and point out the fact that the potential spouse's job should most definitely be an important criteria for both men and women.
A woman of depth and insight will definitely look out for the kind of job you have, but whether or not it becomes a defining criteria for her varies from person to person.

 

I kind of agree with this.

I would say that some women are shallow and wont date someone who has a certain job simply because they want someone with more money. But I will also say that some women might see it as a red flag if a guy doesnt have a very good job, because that might imply other things about his character. Of course it doesn't necessarily always mesn this, but sometimes the reason someone doesnt have a solid career is because they are either lazy, unmotivated, not assertive enough to go after it, afraid of change, etc.

So in short, yeah, some girls might care about your job, but it might not be for the reason you think (money).

When I met my husband, he didnt have the best job, and he had worked at that job for nearly 10 years. Personally, at the time, I didnt care about it. But a few years into marriage, some problems definitely began to spring up that I probably should have seen coming if I had thought more about his job situation.

For one, he is incredibly uncomfortable with change, which can really hinder a lot if things in life. There have been many times that we have both recognized that his job is not good (not just because it diednt make much money, but because the people there are terrible and the management sucks and he was underappreciated), but he still had a really really hard time going and looking for other jobs. It was a big battle, and I had to push him to get it done, which was a little frustrating for me, because that's not at all how i am as a person. I'm a go-getter, for sure, and if I needed a new job, I would be out there all over town looking and applying and checking in with managers, etc.

I could go on about our situation, but this us mostly just to day that if someone does care about your job, it doesnt necessarily mean they're shallow and only thinking of money. They could be thinking about a lot of things.

And honestly, eventually they will be thinking of money as well, and that doesnt make them shallow either. For example, in my situation, theres no way we could have had kids with my husband working the job he was at, because neither of us would want me to work if we had kids at home to care for. But he didnt make enough money for me to not work. Personally, for us, we dont really want kids yet, or maybe ever, anyway, but for some people that might be extremely important. Many people view it as a man's job to support his family financially, so its reasonable for that to be a thing women are looking for.

 

A good job is far more important than just on paper. If a woman is pursuing a relationship to eventually start a family and get married, she is going to want to know that her future spouse can support the family. That doesn't make her a gold digger, either, it makes her smart to be thinking about the future.

Now, that's not to say that someone cant eventually get a better job once they want to start a family. But it kind of depends on why they have the low-level job at the moment and whether or not they are working towards anything better. Some people work at McDonalds with zero aspirations for the future or plans to find anything else, and sorry, but I would not have married a person like that. Not because I'm a gold digger, but because I find it attractive when a man has aspirations in life and is hard working and diligent and wants to provide for his family. Those are perfectly reasonable things for a woman to want, and they're not just something pretty on paper. They're very important and valuable qualities in a man.

 

Basically exactly what i said with more elaboration.

Thanks Castielle. I appreciate it

 

Yeah. They're not necessarily concerned with your money, but they will judge you based on your job. An artist or musician who makes the same amount of money is better off in this area.

 

Women never had an issue with my job, even though I didn’t go to university (initially).

We established, in a way, how many women feel, but let’s go down another lane. One that doesn’t focus on money, but rather the overall climate of the job.

I think it does matter what you do, but probably not in the way you think. Here’s an interesting read:

https://qz.com/1069806/the-highest-and-lowest-divorce-rates-in-america-by-occupation-and-industry/

Many of these jobs are either high-stressed (such as nurses) or putting yourself in a hypersexualised setting (such as casinos and pubs). If you have problems differentiating between work and home and you bring work stress home with you, a girl won’t like that. She probably also wouldn’t be a fan of you being around questionable women as a gaming manager would.

 

Wow, that's interesting. Software developers have one of the lowest rates of divorce.

It would seem from that chart that more logical-minded people are less likely to divorce.

 

Or maybe it's just because nerds are sexy AF

 

http://90s411.com/images/steve-urkel-90s-nerd-2011-hipster-meme.jpg

 

I feel personally victimized by this post