Does Sexting Count?

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by BasketCase, Oct 11, 2018.

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  1. BasketCase

    BasketCase Fapstronaut

    I am in a relationship and have just started rebooting. Once in a blue moon, my GF and I do sext, and I was wondering - do people count this as relapsing? Say, if she instigates it and I comply, is this a relapse? For reference, I'm abstaining from PM and not O, so do people regard this as PM? Thanks!
     
  2. Forgottenpmo

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  3. boilerball123

    boilerball123 Fapstronaut

    Absolutely PM. Who initiates isn't the issue, it is the act itself. If you are going through a MO experience due to an image, it doesn't matter who/what the image is. You are creating a release that is completely self-made...true connection and recovery comes from human to human experience, not human to screen.
     
  4. Nyirenda

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    So sext is cool???
     
  5. lamstronger

    lamstronger Fapstronaut

    I count sexting as a relapse
     
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  6. The Lone Ranger

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    Is “sexting” text only or is it pictures as well? (I’m gonna hijack this thread a little) I have some graphics of my SO hidden somewhere. My personal goal is this: 1. To never watch P again and 2. To keep all my sexual energy inside the relationship. So if I watch these pics of my SO (without M-ing), which one is it???

    (BTW the pictures are ligit and approved by SO).
     
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  7. Clean Willy

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    They have the same effect as porn. You will experience arousal via pixels (or words) from someone not present. You need to "reboot" from these behaviours. You also need to "rewire" your responses to real life interactions with your partner. :)
     
  8. Nyirenda

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    How do I rewire my responses to real life interactions with my partner???
     
  9. Nyirenda

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    How
    kindly elaborate for me olplee
     
  10. BasketCase

    BasketCase Fapstronaut

    I'm talking mainly about pictures.
    This is the same thing that I'm wondering. The main reason why I don't want to watch P again is because I felt it was somewhat unfaithful, and as of right now, I don't count pics of my SO as P. She sends them a lot and a) I don't want to ask her to stop and b) I find nothing wrong with looking at the photos. I suppose it depends what you want to get out of NoFap - if you're trying to keep all of your sexual energy inside the relationship (same as me) then I think there's nothing wrong with it. But it's all subjective I guess haha.
     
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  11. BasketCase

    BasketCase Fapstronaut

    Thank you for your response and I do agree with this, but sexting has always made us closer sexually in real life and it feels like a healthy part of our relationship. Like I said before, I think it probably depends on what our end goal is with NoFap.
     
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  12. Clean Willy

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    The answer is within your question. Your rewiring occurs via: real life interactions with your partner.
     
  13. Clean Willy

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    Each person here can chose to set their own goals or boundaries. Just be crystal clear that erotic sexting or even explicit pictures from your partner will release dopamine and will not reinforce rewiring between you and her. It is up to you man.
     
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  14. lamstronger

    lamstronger Fapstronaut

    You get the same high feeling as you do with porn. Mind gets invaded with sexual thoughts and you know the rest
     
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