dont see a reason to live

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by recoome, Jan 16, 2020 at 1:06 PM.

  1. recoome

    recoome Fapstronaut

    i dont have anyone to live for. no friends. toxic family. work sucks. full of career mistakes. i really am full of rage for my family. i am angry at night. angry at morning. i am fed up of myself. i cant see my therapist anymore as i'm in a new city now.

    i thought therapy had healed me, but it's all miserable. i'm working at a place n my seniors are younger than me. its embarrasing.

    i dont have much care for my family. they have their own issues. n are toxic. its not their fault. their parents were toxic n its a cycle.

    friends... no. i dont have energy to talk with anyone. hanging out is a chore. all i want to do is lie in my room during free time.
  2. Kligor

    Kligor Fapstronaut

    You having hard times buddy,it's hard to go alone when you have no one by your side i know.
    Remember that you are alive and there is sure someone in your life who can be friend with you,someone from school or past jobs.If you need help during this hard time you can send me message any time,i will be glad if i can help you.
  3. Ed74

    Ed74 Fapstronaut

    Isolation makes everything worse I know. Maybe a 12 step meeting? AA NA SA? Even if it's not your thing the principals can work for porn and you can vent...
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  4. IAmLegion

    IAmLegion Fapstronaut

    This is why people resort to religion. You can try it. Find your excuse to live in Jesus or something.

    Still, if you can bear the weight of knowing that mankind as a whole is most likely left to fend for itself, you can extend this atheistic logic to come to a conclusion that living for others is no way to live anyway and completely invalidate such a feeling altogether.

    New city = New therapist

    You sound like you're smart enough to recognize a cycle when you see one. Then break it. Solitude will be a natural consequence.

    If you aren't willing to make an effort than any advice given here is wasted altogether. Find your drive first.
  5. Solidstate75

    Solidstate75 Fapstronaut

    May sound cliche brother but keep your head up. I have had ironiclly those same issues at once. I grew numb but content. So content I was numb and literally let my mind preoccupy itself over time. These feelings hit us all but some more than others. Just know the board is here,if you want reach out to me even. Theres strength in numbers, a clear focus in regimen and a drive in goals. Start small and push yourself out of your zone a bit. Itll preoccupy your mindset and refocus you. Youll see.
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  6. Dimash's 6th octave

    Dimash's 6th octave Fapstronaut

    I don't know how old are you, but doing sports makes wonders. You just need to make that first step and you will be fine. Don't give up man
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  7. Max666

    Max666 Fapstronaut

    Try to focus on one thing at a time and fix your problems that way.

    Become healthier, fitter, stronger. Respect your body.

    Fuel your mind, read.

    Take interests in things besides your job and convert that interest to passion and passion to discipline.

    Above all, stay away from anything that makes you feel good without any effort (eg: junk food, video games, TV, sugar, alcohol, masturbation, even hot showers). Learn to train your mind to derive it's source of dopamine/serotonin from being productive instead.

    Practice all this and set goals. Dont think so much about where you are but rather where you're going. Constantly remind yourself 'your future is your best friend'.

    Forget about friends or girlfriends right now, they're a bi-product, they come after.

    Lastly, time is a gift from the gods. Show your appreciation.
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  8. recoome

    recoome Fapstronaut

    i'm 30 years old and have been only falling down in career. had great beginning at 21 n then had breakdown. left job n did smaller job. then i left that for higher studies but quit that as i wasnt mentally stable. thrice i quit. then was in therapy and eventually did masters and now at 30 i'm at similar job situation when i was 21. it's like all 9 years gone waste.

    this job brings back bad memories of my first job n all that happened. its horrible. whenever i see a colleague i'm like, 'i was there at your place once. n i made horrible career choices. i had so many opportunities n i didn't use any.'
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  9. Dimash's 6th octave

    Dimash's 6th octave Fapstronaut

    I don't know if it consoles you or not, I am 38 and doing my full time MBA. My class average is 29 y.o. I am the oldest, but I am enjoying every single moment in the school. After that I am planning to study Sports Management and work in sports industry. In other words I am pursuing my dream. You are much younger, you are in better position than me :)
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  10. Arcture

    Arcture Fapstronaut

    Hey man, I'm really sorry to hear you're going through all that. It pretty heartbreaking to hear that you're despairing in this difficulty and nothing I can say will make it better but know that you're not alone. We're all going through the shit day by day but its all of our jobs to push through it.

    That being said, you don't have to do it alone. You got a lot of brothers here, including me, that are here ready to grasp your hand and pull you off the floor if you reach for us.

    Let me know if you wanna talk, it may not fix everything but it helps sometimes to just vent and tell someone your story and then talk about it.
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