Dreaming about women that I identify as unattainable but in a weird way

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  1. maximusthegreat

    maximusthegreat Fapstronaut

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    I have this thought pattern recurring quite often in days/weeks of depression (confidence low) period.When I see some really really hot woman say 12/10 usually 10 something years older than me (i am 22) I wish not to penetrate her but because of the fact that I believe I cannot possibly attract her I imagine that she is in my house and I can just

    creep to her, see her sexy panties, go to her drawers and just see her sexy bras maybe ask her if she dont want to show it, go see her when she is showering/changing clothes, see her ankle socks on her beautiful feet and just come to them and masturbate on it. Or I can go to her or maybe when she sees me she can wank me and I would not fear to come prematurely because she wouldn’t mind to do it again a again. Basically I dream about being a little shy boy in front of her and she allowing it.

    Now I know that this is wicked but I want to solve this issue because I believe there is an opportunity to become more confident in front of this category of women and therefore don’t allow them to take my semen in form of my energy (thinking dreaming about it). Does anyone have such fantasies in particular?
     
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  2. MillerGD

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    Next to my other weird things I do have this one too. Not the exact same one, but I cant stop having fantesies about unattainable women, even though I dont find some of them .
     
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  3. I have lots and lots of these kinds of fantasies - things like getting caught masturbating, or pretty girls teasing me because I don't have the balls to make a move . . .

    Not masturbating might help with this. Not looking at porn will definitely help with this.
     
  4. maximusthegreat

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    Haven’t watched porn and masturbated for a year and something. Problem is I am being horny all the time and I stare and fantasize. Even though I don’t look for second time when using 3 seconds rule I am still secretly fantasizing and cannot really stop it.
     
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  5. Xexos

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    I think that you want to have sex with her, but your brain can't even imagine it because deep inside you know that she's waaaay out of your league and there's zero chance that you'd have sex with her.

    Still, her coming to your house is also out of your reach and soon enough you'll get tired of fantasizing about it and you'll give up entirely.
     
  6. maximusthegreat

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    I don't think it will go away like that. I mean, in good mood days I barely fantasize and if so I can send those thoughts away. But right now I am in soo bad place for a week or so. My mood is low, I am tired, depressed a lot of things to do in life (exams and shit) and I cannot stop fantasize about it even though I know it won't happen. The fantasy itself is pleasing for me. I know I want to seek for more though. I want to search for it in real world by staring at women, objectifying them, looking just at their hair, feet, ankle socks (things that please me) and I have temptations
    TRIGGER
    to search for some "non porn music videos" for example of ariana grande where I know she wears ankle socks
    TRIGGER END

    I want this to stop.
     
  7. Theory22

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    Did you find a solution?
     
  8. maximusthegreat

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    Not any specific magic fix, just hard struggle. If I see such woman, I try to stay sober and mind my stuff. If such fantasies come up I try to stay in the present moment - by focusing on whats around me, what is my mission for that instance, what am I doing..
    I believe there is no way around. TBH right now when I visited this post I got the same kind of fantasy thoughts as before and it is a month and something. So only way is to stay alert and when feeling low and depressed, rather indulge in deep relaxation, sleep and hobbies than going out and encounter such women
     
  9. KellticJK

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    I find hobbies to be the best remedy, or work. For many many years work ruled my life. But for 2020, I'm aiming to balance it... too many regrets of just having work and nothing else
     
  10. maximusthegreat

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    That's wise. I would classify myself as a moderate workaholic as well. It can be really similar to PMO addiction. You do your work excessively and trying to be perfect out of no apparent reason or purpose, it is just neuroticism because of emotional pain caused by various problems in other parts of live. Same kind of escape behaviour as pmo. And exhausting myself with my neurotic approach to work, my brain wants to be "rewarded" by some strong pleasure and there go my fantasies...
     
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  11. Theory22

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    How do you get the brain to reset the dopamine and serotonin receptors so they work properly
     
  12. red gyarados

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    Start focusing on becoming the best version of yourself. Especially when it comes to looks. Then we’ll see if they’re “unattainable.”
     
  13. Sounds normal to me
     

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