ED impacted marriage and fertility process

My recommendations:

1) Do not revert to using porn. It is both immoral and desolating, and will cause your feelings of self-worth to plummet.

2) Fertility increases by numbers of viable sperm, which means NOT ejaculating for up to about a week prior to trying to conceive. The sperm which are defective don't make it to the end of the course--the healthy ones do. To increase their chances, they need to swim as a pack--about like soldiers in enemy territory; i.e. safety in numbers. It is true that older sperm will have a reduced vitality, but they will still help to boost the success of the fresher ones.

3) If you're wanting to conceive a girl, and have a high fertility (sperm count), some believe it can help to try to conceive virtually every day up to about three days before ovulation so as to limit the numbers of surviving male sperm (the theory is that the female sperm may swim a little slower but have better longevity). Otherwise, you want to time it closer and have retained your sperm for about a week prior.

4) Your wife's miscarriages can be caused by toxins in her body. It is possible that sperm have something to do with it, but it is probably more common that the woman's hormonal system and/or toxicities have the greater influence. Her body will give all of the best and all of the worst to the fetus. Essentially, whatever is in the blood--and if that includes toxins, the fetus gets them. Oftentimes, after a miscarriage or two, some of her toxins will have been removed and the next time she will be able to keep the baby.

If, on the other hand, it is a hormone issue, she may need some specific dietary adjustments and or hormone treatment. There are topical progesterone creams that could be used to help increase her progesterone levels--a hormone important to keeping the pregnancy instead of having her period. But there are also progesterone-promoting foods. Dates, for example, have a phytochemical similar to progesterone. While they may be pricey, compare their cost against the doctor bill for a little perspective.

Your doctor may have already spoken to you about hormones, but most doctors are unaware of the toxin issues, and those who specialize in toxins (toxicologists) are typically not permitted by regulators to make fertility claims for their treatments (e.g. chelation therapy).

5) Above all, keep in mind that your character does influence your offspring, genetically. If you are disposed to sexual weakness, that weakness can transfer. One might think that the DNA is not changed based on his or her character; but scientists know more now than they used to, and the science is still growing regarding what is known as epigenetics. So keep your habits in check while trying to conceive!

 

We had to have help conceiving as well. It's a TON. Like, it hurts in ways people who have not gone through it cannot imagine. We needed some help with the first child, second one came easier.

One piece of advice, do not repeat the BS above about toxins in your wife being to blame. 100% promise she's beating herself up about something she can't control. See a medical professional, which it sounds like you are, take their advice, focus on being patient.

 

I know a doctor who has helped a number of couples conceive through chelation therapy, removing the toxins from the body to pave the way for a successful pregnancy. It is not "BS". How do you suppose I would have known this information myself? My wife prayed for a child for years, during which time she miscarried multiple times. The truth is, for some couples this is the key to conceiving and keeping a pregnancy. It is not the only possibility, and may not have been what you needed in your case. But to frown on information because it was not what YOU needed seems a bit myopic.

 

Chelation means "to grab" or "to bind." When EDTA is injected into the veins, it "grabs" heavy metals and minerals such as lead, mercury, copper, iron, arsenic, aluminum, and calcium and removes them from the body. Except as a treatment for lead poisoning, chelation therapy is controversial and unproved.

I'm glad you were able to conceive. I am sorry your wife was blamed for the struggle for having too many toxins in her blood.

 

For your information, EDTA was among the first chelating agents used by toxicologists. There are many others, and there are oral chelators as well. It is only "controversial" because BigPharma doesn't like it. People who are toxed out with all those elemental toxins usually give them a lot of business in buying drugs to mask their symptoms--everything from ADHD to depression. It is hardly controversial that the world we live in is increasingly a toxic place with all of our manmade chemicals and pollutants spoiling the environment. Our challenge is how to combat the toxic buildup of these unwelcome elements in our bodies. If you have a better method than chelation treatments, you could certainly suggest it to the FDA (BigPharma controlled) and see if they would "approve." Maybe you could produce a better drug than EDTA, patent it, get BigPharma to help you produce it, and make millions--for both you and them.