Emptiness left by porn...

Hello, I am also a 19 year old college student. I also relapsed today so I know how bad it feels. Btw, join my daily journal thread I just posted it in this forum!

Here are some things that helped me in my longer streaks:
-Combat and control every single sexual thought that enters your mind.
-Do not fantasize even about sex with a real girl. It will eventually lead to relapse.
-Don't stay up too late
-Get out of the house in the afternoons (the most horny time of day, at least for me)
-Exercise daily
-Approach and talk to real girls. If you meet and talk to a hot girl, even if you get rejected, that feeling of interaction with her will keep you on your path. It will keep you motivated to retain seed because maybe if you keep doing it another hot girl will like you
-I felt that emptiness at times too, and I still do. This can be replaced by multiple things, including a girlfriend, building your body, picking up a hobby, or God (if you are religious). Just don't replace it with Netflix and Youtube bc I do that and I don't feel fulfilled at all and eventually it leads to relapse due to idleness and triggers.

Again, join my thread above in the forum, I'd love to hear more about your experiences and we can hold each other accountable each day until they start to build up. Believe me, at first they go by slowly and it's a struggle. But eventually you're not even thinking about it and you have great clarity of thought to actually live your life again. It's worth it!

 

Idleness is my biggest downfall too. I understand where you are coming from. I understand the thought that the best thing is to fill your time up with work, studying and things you need to do. If you're like me, part of the reason you want to quit is that porn takes up so much time. And because of porn you've fallen behind on things that you need to do.

But maybe to start with don't focus on doing the stuff that needs to be done. Instead, block out the time you would be watching porn and devote that time just to your hobby and other stuff that you like, exercise, chatting with friends, whatever. Don't sweat the work/studying. Eventually you can start to shift your time over to that, but don't worry about it up front.

Right now I should be working, but knowing the way I feel right now, I know I'd probably be fapping. But instead I'm on here. Yeah, the work is not getting down either way, but this is better and even more enjoyable than porn.

And also, make sure to have a plan. Don't wait until your idle to figure out what to do. Make a plan now - when I feel like fapping I am instead going to work on that specific programming problem. I'm going to learn that coding technique. It doesn't matter what it is, but it's got to be a concrete thing you can do. Good luck.