Extreme Premature Ejaculation

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This sounds very familiar to me. I am (slowly) finding that I'm getting better at it, but it has taken a while. FWIW, I think that NoFap will probably help in the medium-long term, because it stops you spending so much time fantasising, and (in my experience) PE is much worse if you're already 90% there in your head. Couple of short term options might be cold showers (to take you off the boil) and spending a lot time doing stuff that she enjoys beforehand (so if you go off like a rocket, it's not such a gigantic disappointment for her...)

Also (you probably don't want to hear this but) it's probably something that will improve to some degree as you get older. It's not a guarantee but a combination of experience and (this is really important) NoFap is likely to help.

 

Well I can only speak from my own experience, but I have found that since I gave up PM my overall sex drive has become much calmer. Basically it isn't normal for most guys to have sex daily, let alone multiple times a day over an extended period of time. It's like you're constantly turned up to eleven, that just can't be healthy. My theory is that if you allow a more natural rhythm to return and stop obsessing about it, when you do approach sex you won't constantly be ready to pop, because you have more of a hill to climb before you get there. Before I started NoFap, my sex drive really had a manic desperation about it, I wasn't really enjoying it: the same way a fat man shovels down food without tasting. It is improving though.

Also pelvic floor exercises, and experience - knowing when to back off instead of going at it like a Duracell Bunny helps too

 

Welcome! Nofap might help, but there are maybe other issues causing your PE. When you fapped, did you try to finish as fast as you can? If yes, then your problem might be PMO related.

 

I'm not very good at remembering to do them TBH. But honestly my sex life is a million times better since I stopped the PMO. I'm never going to be a sexual athlete, and I may never be awesome in bed (though I'm sure I can do better than I am at the moment). For me at least, most of PE seems to be in my head mind.

I think you'll find that a lot of the obsessing and sexual thoughts are generated by the masturbation and porn habit. It feeds back into the vicious cycle. You just need to let it cool off a bit.

 

The first couple of weeks were pretty tough, and you do need to work at it. But now it's just a background thing without much real power. I feel pretty clear headed most of the time now