Failed hours away from goal

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by haru, Jun 10, 2015.

  1. haru

    haru Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone,
    I am still a relatively new Fapstronaut, but growing up with a P addiction since age 9/10 (I'm now 16) has trapped me in this disgusting cycle of PMO. I'm probably weaker than most of you, as I have been struggling to get to a week clean and I still have not done that in awhile. It's been about a month with me trying to get this goal, and today I feel crushed. This week I felt so much better as a guy and a human, and I had 13 hours left to go; Unfortunately I succumbed and now here I am. I know progress is not how you fall but how you get back up, but I feel like I'm right back at square one. A week clean is ALOT harder than I thought it would be. Any advice to finally help me reach my goal and go on beyond that would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

    haru
     
  2. Maxxmus

    Maxxmus Fapstronaut

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    Keep trying until you succeed. Never never never give up.
     
  3. Devorian

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    Hey man sorry to hear the relapse so close to your goal. Believe me I know how hard it can be. I went months without looking at p then in a moment of weakness I fell. It hurt me more as a man then anything. I don't think there is really a good strong right way to do things but I do believe with support everything is possible. when you feel like watching go out of your place for a bit, go for a walk around the block a coupe times to clear your mind and give yourself time to gain your strength and resolve back. Keep your mind busy with other things like doing a puzzle or building a model. I think the worst thing about being addicted to something is your mind get rewired to want more of your addiction but over time we can fix that wiring. If you need someone to talk to when your feeling like caving in, if I am online I will be happy to help you try and beat your demons. Also read some success stories on here they can give you a boost of confidence to help you get through.
     
  4. rainman07

    rainman07 Fapstronaut

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    drink oxygenated + ozonated distilled water
     
  5. Edward Dior

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    I know how you feel man, I just f'ing relapsed. But the best thing you can do is bounce back! Redo your goal, set more strict rules and retry.
     
  6. haru

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    Thanks guys for the support...I definitely know there is no set formula for trying to free myself from P addiction besides pure willpower, but the fact that there are others who already made it/struggling right now with me really helps. I've been in this cycle of feeling down after relapse, then getting really happy all of a sudden after posting about it on this forum lol...I'll try next time to stay stronger and complain less. Thanks guys once again, and this time I do feel better than usual after relapse .
     
  7. selecues

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    I relapsed this Morning. Realized i need to just stay off the computer when no1 else is around also ive been staying up late and there are latetime porn movies on tv so im going to try to go to bed early. I felt amazing after just 1 day im new here and just started. 17 yrs old been masturbating every day since i was 14. Didnt even realize it was a problem until i met a girl, for some reason i went on a 4week no masturbation streak w/o even noticing she occupied all of my time. I read somewhere that the reason was because she was giving me dopamaine i needed. but anyways i felt so good when i didnt masturbate. I then went on a 3 week stretch of talking and playing games w about 3 different girls. Realized i was a dick and the good girl i cared about, i messed up with. So im trying to become happy by myself and stop with girls for a little bit and fix myself.
     
  8. Andre2807

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    Sleep early, wake earlier. Create a morning and evening schedule. Have a reason to wake up earlier. Try doing something towards one of your personal goals into your morning routine. My goal is to complete my diploma in taxation, so I make sure I summarise some case law during my morning schedule.

    This habit in itself is awesome as there is an enormous amount of benefits of waking earlier.
     
  9. Hunjuan

    Hunjuan New Fapstronaut

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    Fighting !! I think all the comments here are very helpful. Yesterday was my 17th day of the journey without P and M, and then I collapsed. Even worse, today the urge was so strong that I finally went through the P website for a while then M again. Now I feel a bit desperate. But I am going to try it again and I think maybe being failed once will make me stronger.
     
  10. Dailydoer

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    The recovery is expoential with respect to time. It gets easier and easier with time. As you said, first week is always the hardest. Then it becomes easier and eventually you will learn to control it yourself. Just keep going my friend
     
  11. selecues

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    from guide
    • For every urge you face, you give yourself a choice. Do you give in, or do you outlast the urge? No urge is uncontrollable. No matter how shitty how situation is at the time, you can always make the right decision to walk away and stay clean.
     

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