Feel So Guilty After Minor Slip ups

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Ammar2

Fapstronaut
Hey everyone, I'm an experienced nofapper. I've been practicing nofap for over 5 years now and I'm so happy I can maintain long streaks. I just have one thing that's been on my mind a lot; it is looking with a bit of lust over some slightly sexual things. It's impossible for me to not come across something that re-triggers my addiction. Practicing monk mode has been the best for me in terms of recovery and flatline. So how can I feel less guilty after these small mistakes? I don't want to be easy on myself but also I don't want this guilt/stress.

Thank you for reading what I have to say. I hope you succeed and beat this addiction too! Good luck :)
 
Ammar2 said:
Hey everyone, I'm an experienced Fapstronaut. I've been practicing nofap for over 5 years now and I'm so happy I can maintain long streaks. I just have one thing that's been on my mind a lot; it is looking with a bit of lust over some slightly sexual things. It's impossible for me to not come across something that re-triggers my addiction. Practicing monk mode has been the best for me in terms of recovery and flatline. So how can I feel less guilty after these small mistakes? I don't want to be easy on myself but also I don't want this guilt/stress.

Thank you for reading what I have to say. I hope you succeed and beat this addiction too! Good luck :)
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You must have the eyes of a jedi, the idea is to never look at anything that dose not induce growth. All media is injested through our eyes the same food is with our stomachs. Strust your soul, if the soul says to advert your gaze, advert your gaze. Our eos are not the source of our wisoms our spirits are. There is also the choice you have when you look at anything on how you internally interprit that moment. The trick is harnessing your masculene energy and adverting it into everything you do.
 
I wish I had the answer, but you are much further than me.
I suggest journaling all the things you like about non PMO. the benefits and joys of it. maybe that will keep the positive front and center, so the slightly sexual things look less "fun" and more like "failure, a place I dont want to be again."

congrats on those streaks - thats a big deal!!! stay strong
 
cleaningupmyact said:
I wish I had the answer, but you are much further than me.
I suggest journaling all the things you like about non PMO. the benefits and joys of it. maybe that will keep the positive front and center, so the slightly sexual things look less "fun" and more like "failure, a place I dont want to be again."

congrats on those streaks - thats a big deal!!! stay strong
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Thanks so much. That's great advice, thanks!
 
What I'm starting to realise is the guilt you feel when you make a minor mistake is the addiction trying to get you to relapse. I'm a spiritual person so I view this as a demon perched on my shoulder, whispering in my ear telling me things like "Well you already made a mistake, might as well go all the way!" and then when you relapse, the voice changes to "Well you relapsed, why not just relapse again and again!" and then when I binge and feel terrible, it becomes "You're a failure, you're a loser, why did you listen to me, you're pathetic! Wallow in the failure and watch porn again!"

Learn to ignore this voice. Monk mode or not, minor mistakes are not going to destroy your progress unless you allow them to. The real skill is not in entirely avoiding slip-ups. You could spend a year in a cave meeting nobody and on day 366 walk out the cave and be triggered by a woman walking past. Is this your fault? No, it's human nature. The real skill is in pushing past mistakes, not avoiding them entirely. The former is basically impossible. The latter shows strength of character and conviction.
 
UnholyConfessor said:
What I'm starting to realise is the guilt you feel when you make a minor mistake is the addiction trying to get you to relapse. I'm a spiritual person so I view this as a demon perched on my shoulder, whispering in my ear telling me things like "Well you already made a mistake, might as well go all the way!" and then when you relapse, the voice changes to "Well you relapsed, why not just relapse again and again!" and then when I binge and feel terrible, it becomes "You're a failure, you're a loser, why did you listen to me, you're pathetic! Wallow in the failure and watch porn again!"

Learn to ignore this voice. Monk mode or not, minor mistakes are not going to destroy your progress unless you allow them to. The real skill is not in entirely avoiding slip-ups. You could spend a year in a cave meeting nobody and on day 366 walk out the cave and be triggered by a woman walking past. Is this your fault? No, it's human nature. The real skill is in pushing past mistakes, not avoiding them entirely. The former is basically impossible. The latter shows strength of character and conviction.
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Wow thanks these are great words. I will strengthen my will and abstain well in the long run! Yeah I guess minor slip ups are bad but it could be the brain tricking me.
 
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