Has anybody else experienced prolonged periods of obsessively replaying breakups, fights, arguments in your mind? It can really drain my resources to get caught up in it. In moments when I think nobody is listening, I've even talked aloud at this imaginary individual, almost shouting. This topic is important to me because I've been wanting to think positively more often. Porn feels like negative thinking on steroids. Now that I've been PMO free for the better part of two months, I've noticed these fights taking their place, obviously putting a big dent in the quality of my recovery. What are some ideas of how to overcome this tendency? Thanks! All the best on your recovery.
Yes, I understand where this is coming from & I find that mindfulness meditation helps with controlling your thoughts & anger while paying attention to your breathing . It's a technique that helps with prolonged negative thoughts,feelings,& grudges that you may hold or have been holding for a long time . Don't beat yourself up about these thoughts... they are just thoughts & as long as you don't act out on them, they can have no power over you . The key is putting that energy (positive or negative) that you have inside yourself into something else whether it be exercise,meditation,reading,etc.etc. Whenever you feel like playing out these scenarios again like overthinking,talking or screaming alone,contemplating with yourself or even crying alone, DO SOMETHING PRODUCTIVE ! * Remember, your thoughts should never have control over you but you control over your thoughts . *
Not long ago I was more resentful. I would think of arguments I had that day, the week before, things that happened in high school. Or stuff like I walked into a room and wasn't greeted while the next minute someone else would be greeted. I sorta did some studying on what my part was on this stuff and what the other parties' part was. It was a lot of basic easy-to-understand stuff. I could understand the logic of it but it took a while to actually "feel" it and have it become more natural. I had to have more confidence to really incorporate it and the more it incorporated itself, I had more confidence. Stuff like walking into a room and not being greeted; frankly I had a manner of moving and body language that was shy, awkward, I could also be the one to greet first, how many times had I not greeted someone as they came in, eventually just a relaxed feeling of not caring, still gets me sometimes though. It's a tricky bit with addiction and with something like NoFap. Let's say addiction is having lost the power over choice or control, yet you might say you have to make a choice to quit. I only bring that up to say I've read something similar on emotions, everyone has probably heard it. When someone says something to make you mad, you are really choosing to be mad. Now I do not follow that 100%, nor do I always stay cool, but it's amazing when you keep that mind sometimes. I don't think that's anything new, someone on here can probably explain how that's what monks do.
