Hey guys, For those who have read my journal (if any), you know that I have suffered from erectile dysfunction ever since I became sexually active. Because of this issue, I was very unconfident sexually. The new attempts I had a sex always ended in failure, and things just got worse and worse. I dated my first girlfriend for 6 months, and eventually she left me because the issue was causing a lot of fights and frustration. Needless to say, my situation broke my spirit many times and made me question my masculinity. It was at the time of breaking up with my girlfriend that I finally decided it was time to join nofap and quit porn and masturbation. I always thought that might have been the problem, but up until the break up I wasn't willing to do what was necessary to fix it. I'm happy to say that nearly 4 months later I am almost completely healed. I had successful sex for the second time last night, and it was amazing. Mind you, it was with my ex-girlfriend. We ended up getting back together and things have been pretty great so far. My only issue now is that I seem to need to get head before sex for else I won't get rock hard. I'm sure this will get better with time, I just find it weird and don't consider myself full healed until I can do it without oral. The road was long and not necessarily linear. I regressed a few times, not because I succumbed to the temptations of porn, but simply because some days my libido would be back, other days it would disappear again. My erections came and gone too. At first they would be absent for long periods of time, but eventually the times were I couldn't have one become shorter and shorter. Things I did: Made a schedule Tried not to stay in my room Meditated Exercised Ate healthier Had a friend or two I could confide in Rewired with partners (wasn't back with my girlfriend right away) Whatever the case, give yourself time to heal. I know it sucks waiting...MAN does it suck. But once you're finally at the finish line, you'll look back on everything and wonder why it took you so long to change in the first place. Porn and masturbation no long control my life. I no longer use them as a mechanism for being stressed or depressed. I only orgasm when with a partner, and I can promise you it's a lot more satisfying than with yourself. I feel like I'm finally in control of my life again. I've conquered my biggest issue, all other goals seem possible now.
Well done dude! happy for you! i almost slipped the otherday but my will power took over luckily. Reading your post has made me that bit stronger... i think im roughly on the same time as u, 3 months plus a week or so. basically now i am just gagging for sex haha. I cant wait to see if my work has improved my sex life. well done again !!!
Stay strong friend. If you are like me, after three months you were upset because you weren't healed yet. But I promise you'll be there before you know it.
Congratulations! It's stories like yours that motivate every single one of us who struggle to beat our own demons, stay strong!
Congratulations, man! Yeah, sex is best with somebody else. I'm totally there when it comes to ups and downs. Right now I'm about two weeks in and I'm definitely having trouble with my drive. I'm in that dead zone. But I know it will come back, so long as I stick to the plan. Thanks for sharing your story!
Great to hear a success story! Certainly motivates me to keep up the fight. I also suffer from ED and for the longest time didn't want to tie to to PMO but the more I read more I realized it was. Really looking forward to the same feeling you had. Great job!!
great story man, this is what I needed to hear. This is exactly why I started this. I had a failure to launch issue with a great girl I met, and it ruined the night and was kind of embarrasing. It was the catalyst I need to make a change in my life. It's been really hard so far, but my goal is to eliminate the impotence I have and regain a healthy libido again. Question, when or how did you realize everything was starting to turn around. I know everyone's different, but was it like 3 months for an effective reset? Any insights would help. Going on 2 weeks right now.
Well progress kind of came and went, but I say I started knowing I was getting better when I didn't have super strong urges to watch porn anymore. The idea could come up in my head and I wouldn't feel the need to jerk it. Around 2-3 months I got a blow job really fast from this girl and at that time I knew I was improving. Since then things have been getting better. I still am having some issues with performance, and even last night I wasn't able to get it up again ( i think this is because I'm feeling sick though, my penis feels dead.) Either way, things are improving.
Thanks you for sharing dude. It can't be the worst thing in the world needing head before sex! haha I'm am experiencing crazy libido fluctuations with/without PMO so I am a little worried about my own condition. It's nice to hear someone else's experience that with some patience and persistence, we can make it through.
Excellent dude. I know a lot of what you were feeling. I'm just waiting now and rebooting before I start up with sexual experiences again. Its definitely worth the wait. Loved the story by the way. I think a congratulations is in order here.