flirted with a girl over texts and got an erection without physically touching it yesterday...

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by knicksfan23, Jan 12, 2019.

  1. knicksfan23

    knicksfan23 Fapstronaut

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    haven't masturbated in 12 days or watched porn and it's still not working properly, but maybe that's progress? didn't touch it after it got erect either. also got it erect while standing which is the hardest for me to get an erection
     
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  2. Anonymous86

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    Almost sounds like a relapse to me.
     
  3. A nu start

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    lol how is getting an erection a relapse? Isn't that the whole point of people going nofap, so they can get erections naturally?
     
  4. Clarke

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    What a killjoy
     
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  5. Anonymous86

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    Yes, but I thought that getting an erection from a text of all things is considered an artificial sexual stimulation.
     
  6. Tankus

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    I still get hungry if someone talks to me about a nice meal.

    @knicksfan23 sounds like you're doing well man, keep going!
     
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  7. henry3526

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    I totally agree, getting an erection without looking at porn is awesome progress, running off to masturbate or looking at porn afterwards wouldn't be. You can't help what happens around you, or what you see, but you can help what you think or do about it.

    @knicksfan23 Keep up the good work man, sounds like you are making great progress!
     
  8. Anonymous86

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    Isn't it still artificial stimulation though? Am I wrong? o_O
     
  9. A nu start

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    If it's helping him court a girl and gives him the chance to share intimacy with someone, it's worth it. That supersedes any aspect of relapse.
     
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  10. Anonymous86

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    Would if be officially a relapse or even a reset if I got a semi erection w/ precum from a text but didn’t act sexually from it then?
     
  11. henry3526

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    No I don't think so. Artificial stimulation is seeking something out to get aroused by it. I think that seeing a text message and getting turned on by it is out of your control, much like seeing a hot woman and getting turned on by it is out of my control. Now if I get aroused by a hot woman and then go masturbate, that's a relapse. If I intentionally go looking for hot women to gawp at then that's a relapse. If my wife were to send me a text telling me all the things that's going to happen later today I'm sure I'd get a massive erection, but that's not a relapse, that's reading something I wasn't expecting, and my brain reacting to it in a way that's a) very positive and b) out of my control. What happens next could cause me to relapse though, there's a difference...
     
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