Fresh Start

Before deciding to begin nofap, I was stunned with myself when trying to remember a specific stretch of time dating back to when I was 15/16 (32 now) when I didn't habitually look at porn.

Totally uncertain of what lies ahead. I have an active sex life with my wife, but frequently need to fantasize in my head in order to come.

Another off-putting habit is my daily morning routine of picking out a girl my sexual history in my mind, remembering one of our sexual encounters together, and re-enacting it, only fantasizing about what I would do better this time.

Not sure if and how that relates to porn, but I know it's unfair to my love and also probably just generally unhealthy.

I'm not the kind of guy who wants to hang my personal issues out to dry in front of everyone. Recently I quit smoking, which was tough, but it didn't require a supportive community. PMO, however, is another beast altogether and I know I'll need ongoing dialogue, and others to learn from.

Cheers to NoFap, and I look forward to challenging myself to be as good as I can be.

 

Thanks for the note - honest, thoughtful, sensible, and helpful. Thing is, I'm jumping into this a bit blind, with no preconceived strategies. But I fully realize that won't do. I have confidence that the first short amount of time is doable for me, but trouble will come, as well as urges, temptations, and self-trickery.

Therefore, I will learn along the way, read and share with you all, and come up with my own disciplinary practices, hit my studies hard, put more effort into my work, and most importantly, love my wife better.

Any advice on small goals and things to occupy my mind/body through first ten days would be of great use. Thanks for taking me in.