Giving it a shot

About one year ago I had an "injury" during sex. I say "injury" because even I am not 100% sure if it was truly a physical injury or if something happened to me mentally. All I know is at about exactly that time I began having problems. After that, I basically had ED for a month which then went away, but I still had weaker erections than before. I freaked out and went to a urologist who told me it was all in my head and didn't give me any other advice. I stopped all PMO, but after a month I ended up talking to a girl and started having sex with her. Things still didn't feel 100%, but I figured if I could have a good enough erection for sex I was probably going to be fine.

Before my "injury" I was doing quite a bit of edging to try to help with premature ejaculation. I would edge (sometimes to porn sometimes not to porn) for usually 30-45 minutes 3-5 times per week. Sometimes I would let myself ejaculate other times I wouldn't. My erections felt as strong as ever once I got the hang of this, and I was horny all the time. However in hindsight, I wonder if I injured myself somehow while edging because I realize that 30-45 minutes is a lot stimulation.

Overall, I would say that I am tons better right now than I was one year ago. I can get an erection when I want to through stimulation, and I don't have problems with a partner. However, I still feel a little different than I did before this all started. I don't get as many erections throughout the day as I used to, and I feel less connected to my body sexually. I also feel a lot of tightness in my pelvic floor area, and I don't know if this is contributing to what I am experiencing. Maybe my edging messed up my pelvic floor? Maybe mentally I am so preoccupied with this area of my body I am subconsciously flexing those muscles? I truly don't know.

I am really focusing on health, specifically cardiovascular health. I do cardio exercise almost every day, and I am back to lifting. I am also trying to eat healthier, and I drink a ton of water. I also meditate and try to take my focus off of my pelvic region. I don't have sex as much now because my girlfriend recently moved far away. We're pretty much in an open relationship but I'm not seeking anyone out because I want to give myself a break sexually. I am also currently edging about 2 times per week for 5-7 minutes, but I don't know how to feel about this. I want to just stop for the 90 days and see what happens, but I'm scared of the "use it or lose it" saying. I think I'm going to give it a shot and see what happens. I definitely feel like a reboot would be good for me both mentally and physically.

 

Thanks for the response man. And yeah I feel like my pelvic floor issues started a few years ago when I was put on an SSRI. I pretty much had no feeling of pleasure, so I basically had to flex those muscles constantly during sex and masturbation to feel anything. After coming off the meds was when I first noticed pre E, that was about 2 years ago. I thought edging would help fix it but I probably just made it worse the way I was doing it.

I have an appointment with my primary care doctor in about a month. I'm definitely going to ask him about seeing a physio and possibly getting an MRI. Last time I saw him about 6 months ago he basically told me he thinks I strained a muscle down there and said it should heal on its own. I do feel like I'm getting a bit better since I started doing intense cardio and some stretching, so hopefully I continue on that path.

 

Nope, I'm 23 and physically healthy. I do have some anxiety, but nothing over the top. I just had some blood work done not that long ago and everything they tested came back normal.