Giving up porn & now alcohol

Hey guys,

Well I've been going over two months strong on the NoFap and things in my life have really been improving. Before texting, conversation, taking girls on dates, caring about how they feel, caring about their emotional and sexual needs. All of this seemed irrelevant to me or like alot of hard work but now its stuff that I really crave and would much rather do than look at porn.

I've gotten so far now that I've realised that theres vices in my life that I've been induldging in that have distracted me from who I really am and fed the spiritual desperation I have felt for so many years.

I had arranged to meet a girl I care about in a bar, I drove for miles to see her and ended up messing it up because I got too drunk and left her in the bar on her own because I was not in control of my actions due to being under the influence, somehow I ended up in a taxi. She isnt talking to me now and I really regret that I did this to her because we had alot of history but I thank her for making me realise that really nothing in my life good has come from alcohol, nothing at all only dissapointment, confusion, a lack of memories and a loss of consciousness. Not to mention the amount of money I'd spend on alcohol. So now aswell as my NoFap quest, I'm giving up alcohol.

I will let you know how it goes; Kaiobane

 

Thank you for the words of support brother.

I think it has been affecting my life in a bad way so I'm going to give it up for atleast 6 months to see how it affects my life

 

Hey man I experienced the same symptoms after a night of alcohol, I'd fap whenever I was hungover too but I guess thats part of the habit of PMO is that you have trigger moments which form a pattern of behavior but it is possible to break free. I'm going 79 days strong and I dont see any reason in stopping.

The main thing to understand is that if you knew how many chances you screwed up because you were drunk, how much money you spent on it, how shit it makes you feel the next day I think anybody would consider giving it up or atleast knowing when to stop and having self control to know when you've had enough.

I've now decided not to avoid it all together but to cap it at 3/4 drinks a night. Honestly what put me off the most is how much of an imbecile I become on alcohol all my wit and charm is wiped out in a zombie like state which no women would find attractive unless they are trying to take advantage of you. It is true alcohol can give you some courage but alcohol can also ruin lives in excess

Cheers brother it is true if a girl wants to be alone with you, wants to spend time with you, wants to be held by you. That is all you need to know and that is all you need to draw courage from

Much love

 

Mahalo man I know this musician and I love his music and his voice, brother Iz. The guy in my profile picture is actually from the film "Shallow Hal" but he is pretty much influenced by him!

 

Hey man sounds like you have alot of reasons for quitting and much respect for wanting to give up completely! Binge drinking is a big part of the culture in the UK and there is plenty of quality beer on tap, but those are not excuses and I'm annoyed it has taken me this long to realise and also to of found the NoFap community and way of life. Best of luck to you and to you NoFap!