Guys I need your help..

You may want to check out these broadcasts on maintaining sexual purity of January 8th, 9th & 13th:

http://www.focusonthefamily.com/radio.aspx?ID={882E53B7-8189-4FBB-81B4-F874DB6FBD21}

Make it your mindset to get the victory in this area one day at a time. With God's help you can do it.

All the best on your journey!

 

Kickthatfap, loving God doesn't mean that the urges of the flesh go away. And having those urges doesn't mean you don't want to please God. Paul experienced the same thing. (Romans 7:21) Joseph stayed faithful to God by getting himself out of a bad situation when temptation arose. (Genesis 39:12)

Take a cue from Joseph. When you feel those urges, particularly when you are in a situation where you could act on them, quickly get yourself out of the situation. This isn't about proving your willpower or your love for God by toughing it out. This is about breaking a cycle that's harmful to you, one that plays against a weakness of the flesh that you've recognize that you struggle with. Every time you run away like Joseph, that's a victory.

 

Good advice, aspire!

 

Something that really helps me is something I was told by a priest. He said "we are only stewards of our bodies." And at face value it didn't mean much to me, but then I thought of it like this. What if one of your parents was going on a 2 month vacation and said, "I want you to look after my very expensive Cadillac. You can drive it and everything, just take care of it, and don't do anything stupid with it."

I think it's safe to say that we would do our best to make sure not even a scratch would happen. But because we are human and it has a V8 engine and looks beautiful, we abuse it. Or we drive it too rough, or throw our left over trash all over the floor after getting McDonalds.

Now in the parent's eyes, when they ask for the car back, they are disgusted. They trusted you enough with something very precious and we just couldn't stay in control our temptations. In turn, we are also disgusted with ourselves because we knew we could have done a better job, and as everyone knows, or has experienced; the only thing worse than a punishment, is the look of disappointment on one's parents face.

But since we know we can do better than that, we can apologize. We go back to the car and clean up the mess we made. And we tell that parent that we are truly sorry, and will do our best to not make the same mistakes.

And because I'm referring to God as our "parent", they forgive you. They say, "ok, I forgive you. Just do your best to not make the same mistakes."

The point I'm trying to make here is this. We are all human, and we fall. No one is perfect. However, if we can look at our bodies as not even ours; as a gift from God, then we can do our best to take care of it as best we can. That way when we stand at our final judgment, we can say, "I know I messed up, and abused that which you gave me, but I also tried to take care of it once I found out how important it was to you."

Well, I don't know if this helps you, but it just helped me to think of the problem of pmo like that, but i hope this helps.

 

Trust things are going well for you guys in your journey to overcome!

Here's a good article, especially for yet-to-be husbands:

http://cbmw.org/men/leadership/porn-and-future-marriage/?fb_action_ids=10153738332680088&fb_action_types=og.likes&fb_source=other_multiline&action_object_map=[277178759101446]&action_type_map=[%22og.likes%22]&action_ref_map=[]

"Beloved, I urge you as sojourners and exiles to abstain from the passions of the flesh, which wage war against your soul." (1 Peter 2:11)

Let's press on in Christ!