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Guys thoughts on professional massages by women?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Jbird22, Aug 17, 2014.

  1. Aug 17, 2014 #1
    Jbird22

    Jbird22 Fapstronaut

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    So-what does this do for a guy? I've never given it any thought and at least once a year would buy one for my husband but now I have a whole new outlook on everything and I'm pretty uncomfortable with it...not too mention one of the things I saw him watching involved that scenario..except the other way around. Ugh still enrages me to even say that out loud... Thanks for your thoughts. I just know it's going to come up and am preparing for that conversation.
     
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  2. Aug 17, 2014 #2
    Captain B

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    For me personally a professional massage was never a sexual thing at all. Not now and not while I was still a big fan of PMO ([NSFW]even of massage-related P[/NSFW]). Of course, the fantasy may remain but while it's going on, I just enjoy it and I don't think about the person who is doing it in an inappropriate way. I just enjoy the stress and pain relief and don't want to ruin the experience by getting funny thoughts up in my head. Not to mention that I don't want to make the person giving the massage feel uncomfortable if I get an erection. That would be awkward as hell.

    This is a subjective view on the topic though. So if you still feel uncomfortable with the thought of your husband getting a professional massage, talk to him about it. But are you scared he might actually do something with the masseuse or do you just not like the idea of him thinking about her, even if it's only fantasy? I wouldn't see the latter as so much of a problem because noone is completely immune to temptations. It doesn't have to mean that he's unfaithful. But that's just my opinion.

    You could also take massage classes and get rid of the whole problem entirely :)
     
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  3. Aug 17, 2014 #3
    Jbird22

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    Thanks for your response! It's definitely not that I think anything is going to happen with the masseuse...and I've never been one to be a jealous or insecure type, the only reason he's ever even had a massage is because of me...it's just now it feels like I'm hiring someone to interact his fantasy...he's laying there naked with a woman rubbing him down, just doesn't seem innocent or relaxing anymore...and like I said especially because that was one of the videos I saw that he watched...so yeah I'm not ok at all with spending our money on him getting a real life fantasy, so I was just wondering because I see a lot about "triggers" and "relapsing", it just seems like this could be a bad idea? He recently brought up needing a massage because his necks been bothering him and I said I would give him one anytime but I can just see this being an issue...so was curious what guys really think about while getting rubbed down. Thanks for your input I appreciate!!
     
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